Messy Family Minute #54: The Importance of Ritual

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon.

How can you turn a simple daily routine, something ordinary that you do everyday into a tool to renew your marriage? Transform a routine into a ritual!

Rituals can build up and revive your marriage because it is a routine that has a positive emotional meaning which points to a deeper reality. Rituals can be little things like saying “I love you,” each day before leaving, or longer things like a daily evening or morning walk together. One couple I know has a “forgiveness ritual,” when they reconcile at the end of the day.

Some tips on rituals – make it a habit so it’s easy to maintain, make it time limited so there is a recognizable beginning and ending, and last tip – tie it to something you do already — like brushing your teeth or getting ready for bed. Apathy and indifference can destroy marriages, but maintaining rituals helps marriage weather the storms of life. So if your wife likes it when you bring her flowers, ritualize it!

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