Messy Family Minute #36: Prioritize Your Spouse

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon

One of the secrets of a happy home is for spouses to prioritize each other over anyone else – even the children!  We know this may sound counterintuitive, but the best way to be a great parent is to be an amazing spouse!  We have to put the needs of our marriage above the wants of our children.  Think of it this way, what do children need more than anything else?  They need a mother and father who are completely in love with each other and who provide a stable, safe place for that child to grow.  

After all, where do these children come from? They are the fruit of your marriage!  So don’t get confused and think that your children can be the focus of your family.  That is not good for them and it’s not good for you.  Your marriage needs to be prioritized and from that marriage, you will be able to provide a loving home for your children AND you will have the energy to give them the love and attention they need.  Always remember you are first a husband or wife and second, you are a parent.  

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Below is our podcast on “Pursuing Your Spouse.” Listen to it to find out more on this topic.