Messy Family Minute #34: First Time Obedience

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon

Early in our parenting we were introduced to the importance of “first time obedience”.  Now some of you out there may think this is an impossible concept for toddlers or teenagers to understand, but its not!  Mind you, while it is possible, we didn’t say it is easy!

As we form our children, we need to understand that obedience is a virtue, a very important virtue that includes respect, self-control, and the training of the will. How do you train your child in obedience?  First, you expect it.  You expect that your child will listen the first time.  Not when you count to 5, not when they feel like it, not when they agree with you.. But right away.

Second, when your child does not obey the first time, give a quick reminder and then a consequence.  Yes, some children will need to be reminded again and again, but that’s ok.  Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint.  

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