Messy Parenting: Catholic conversations on marriage and family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org Parenting is not a clean-cut, simple process for those who like to follow the rules. Family life is messy and unpredictable, but it is the greatest adventure you will ever have. We are Mike and Alicia Hernon, parents of 10 children ranging from 6 to 23 and we would like to invite you into some of the conversations we have had with each other about marriage, parenting, and Catholic family life. Our hope is that our conversation sparks a dialogue between you and your spouse that leads to greater unity and intentional Christian parenting in your home. Listen in to our podcast and start the conversation as we seek to lead our families to heaven. Visit us at <a href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org"> MessyFamilyProject.org</a> for resources, guides, links and show notes. 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Listen in to our podcast and start the conversation as we seek to lead our families to heaven. <br /> <br /> Visit us at <a href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org"> MessyFamilyProject.org</a> for resources, guides, links and show notes. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean episodic Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family mhernon@gmail.com mhernon@gmail.com (Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family) 2018 Catholic conversations on marriage and family from a couple with a large family. Our kids are 6 to 23 and we discuss issues related to all ages; toddlers to teens and everything in between. Messy Parenting: Catholic conversations on marriage and family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/podcast-cover.png https://www.messyfamilyproject.org mhernon@gmail.com Steubenville, OH Bi-Monthly Support our ministry MP 101 : Principles of Discipline https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-101-principles-of-discipline/ Tue, 11 Dec 2018 06:00:15 +0000 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/?p=1753 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-101-principles-of-discipline/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-101-principles-of-discipline/feed/ 0 <p>“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4 More than any other topic, discipline is something listeners have asked us to address in our podcast. Our hesitation has … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-101-principles-of-discipline/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-101-principles-of-discipline/">MP 101 : Principles of Discipline</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> http://traffic.libsyn.com/messyparenting/MP101.mp3 More than any other topic, discipline is something listeners have asked us to address in our podcast. Our hesitation has been that this is just such a complicated topic!   One that deserves much time and thought because, well… it's complicated and there are no easy answers, as much as we would like there to be. So instead of trying to cover all things regarding discipline, we decided to give some foundational beliefs in our discipline philosophy.  This podcast explores 5 principles of discipline that all parents can apply to their children, no matter what the age. This podcast compliments our Guide to Discipline found on our website.  <br /> <br /> Download the Messy Family Guide to Discipline at http://www.MessyFamilyProject.org<br /> <br /> Podcast episodes referenced in this show<br /> <br /> The Five Love Languages - https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/<br /> <br /> The Irreplaceable Role of Parents - https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/<br /> <br /> Parenting as a Team - https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/ Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 44:10 MP 100 : Greatest Influence on our Parenting https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-100-greatest-influence-on-our-parenting/ Fri, 30 Nov 2018 01:37:59 +0000 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/?p=1725 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-100-greatest-influence-on-our-parenting/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-100-greatest-influence-on-our-parenting/feed/ 0 <p>Welcome to the 100th podcast! We are celebrating the public launch of our ministry with new branding, new website, and even new intro and outro music on the podcast itself! As promised, we decided to interview the people who had … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-100-greatest-influence-on-our-parenting/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-100-greatest-influence-on-our-parenting/">MP 100 : Greatest Influence on our Parenting</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Welcome to the 100th podcast! We are celebrating the public launch of our ministry with new branding, new website, and even new intro and outro music on the podcast itself! 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MP 099 : Yelling – The Lazy Approach to Parenting https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-099-yelling-the-lazy-approach-to-parenting/ Wed, 14 Nov 2018 19:28:58 +0000 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/?p=1583 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-099-yelling-the-lazy-approach-to-parenting/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-099-yelling-the-lazy-approach-to-parenting/feed/ 0 <p>We listen to what our parents say to us because this is how we figure out who we are. – Dr. Meg Meeker The words that parents say to their children are important, but equally as important (if not more) … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-099-yelling-the-lazy-approach-to-parenting/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-099-yelling-the-lazy-approach-to-parenting/">MP 099 : Yelling – The Lazy Approach to Parenting</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> We listen to what our parents say to us because this is how we figure out who we are. - Dr. Meg Meeker
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The words that parents say to their children are important, but equally as important (if not more) is HOW we say those words. We have found this through our own struggles with yelling! Communication happens not only verbally, but also emotionally, so our words can be lost in the way in which we express ourselves. When we raise our voices in anger through yelling we may unintentionally be verbally assaulting our own children. In this show we talk about having a plan, getting perspective and asking for help.
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MP 098 : Parenting as a Team https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/ Wed, 24 Oct 2018 14:32:15 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1260 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/feed/ 0 <p>Raising children is beautiful but also hard work. It’s a task for unselfish, devoted parents. ~ Archbishop Chaput Parenting is not for cowards, that is for sure! Thankfully, God gives children two parents who, when they work together, can provide … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-098-parenting-as-a-team/">MP 098 : Parenting as a Team</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Raising children is beautiful but also hard work. It’s a task for unselfish, devoted parents. ~ Archbishop Chaput Parenting is not for cowards, that is for sure! Thankfully, God gives children two parents who, when they work together, Parenting is not for cowards, that is for sure! Thankfully, God gives children two parents who, when they work together, can provide the best environment for their child. But working together can be tough. Spouses come from different backgrounds, have different personalities, virtues, and vices. All of this needs to be worked through to get in sync with each other. Presenting a united front to your children is not only good for them, its good for you and your marriage as well. Listen in as we give some tips on how to parent together with respect, unity, and God’s grace.
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MP 097 : Elements of a Family Culture https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-097-elements-of-a-family-culture/ Tue, 09 Oct 2018 11:00:54 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1234 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-097-elements-of-a-family-culture/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-097-elements-of-a-family-culture/feed/ 1 <p>“Each family finds within itself a summons that cannot be ignored and that specifies both its dignity and responsibility: family, become what you are” (Familiaris Consortio, #17) We have discussed how important a family culture is. It is a powerful … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-097-elements-of-a-family-culture/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-097-elements-of-a-family-culture/">MP 097 : Elements of a Family Culture</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Each family finds within itself a summons that cannot be ignored and that specifies both its dignity and responsibility: family, become what you are” (Familiaris Consortio, #17) We have discussed how important a family culture is. We have discussed how important a family culture is. It is a powerful construct that communicates more effectively than your words alone can. But how do parents build a healthy culture in their home? What should the elements be? The first priority should be building a spiritual life, which we discussed in “Building a Family Culture” but what comes after that? In this podcast, we discuss the next 4 priorities: your marriage, the family’s network of relationships, discovering giftedness, and family operations. Listen in and then take some time to discuss with your spouse what needs to be strengthened in the culture you are building in your home. (BONUS: At the very end we are joined by a special guest.)
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MP 096 : Building a Family Culture https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/ Wed, 26 Sep 2018 18:05:16 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1212 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/feed/ 0 <p>Creating a Family Culture is a powerful way to influence our children in a way that goes beyond our relationship with any one individual child. It is greater than just you or your spouse. Family Culture is the unspoken system … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/">MP 096 : Building a Family Culture</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Creating a Family Culture is a powerful way to influence our children in a way that goes beyond our relationship with any one individual child. It is greater than just you or your spouse. Family Culture is the unspoken system … Continue reading You can take the survey to help shape the direction of our ministry at https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MFP-Podcast
 
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MP 095 : Sibling Challenges https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-095-sibling-challenges/ Fri, 14 Sep 2018 09:30:17 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1188 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-095-sibling-challenges/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-095-sibling-challenges/feed/ 1 <p>Siblings: Children of the same parents each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together ~ Sam Levenson One of the greatest gift we can give our children is more brothers and sisters. But as parents our responsibility isn’t … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-095-sibling-challenges/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-095-sibling-challenges/">MP 095 : Sibling Challenges</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Siblings: Children of the same parents each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together ~ Sam Levenson One of the greatest gift we can give our children is more brothers and sisters. But as parents our responsibility isn’t … Continue reading One of the greatest gift we can give our children is more brothers and sisters. But as parents our responsibility isn’t just to provide those siblings and just walk away saying, “Hope it all works out!”. We need to provide the environment and guidance that children need to have healthy, life-giving relationships with their brothers and sisters. This is a challenge – no doubt about it! But the effort that parents put into this formation is worth it in the long run. Listen in as we give tips, perspective, and encouragement to all parents who are working to overcome sibling challenges.
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MP 094 : The Myth of the Play Date https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-094-the-myth-of-the-play-date/ Wed, 22 Aug 2018 01:47:37 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1150 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-094-the-myth-of-the-play-date/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-094-the-myth-of-the-play-date/feed/ 2 <p>“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions it is up to us to share our calm, not join in the chaos” You are at a friend’s house for dinner with your kids. The 3 and 5 yr old are … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-094-the-myth-of-the-play-date/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-094-the-myth-of-the-play-date/">MP 094 : The Myth of the Play Date</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions it is up to us to share our calm, not join in the chaos” You are at a friends house for dinner with your kids. The 3 and 5 yr old are playing on the floor. Each has a toy, but then one child decides that he wants what his friend has. Chaos ensues. What are parents to do? How do you deal with your child? What do you say to the little friend? How do you manage this with your hosts? This is a sticky situation that many parents run into - how can you have peace between little kids visiting together? We talk about this and give some realistic expectations on little kids play and social interactions. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 54:15 MP 093 : Leisure, Life, and Games We Love https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-093-leisure-life-and-games-we-love/ Thu, 26 Jul 2018 19:46:40 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1124 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-093-leisure-life-and-games-we-love/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-093-leisure-life-and-games-we-love/feed/ 3 <p>“…the ability to be “at leisure” is one of the basic powers of the human soul.” – Josef Pieper, Leisure, the Basis of Culture How many of us really appreciate what it mean to enjoy leisure in our lives? Life … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-093-leisure-life-and-games-we-love/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-093-leisure-life-and-games-we-love/">MP 093 : Leisure, Life, and Games We Love</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “…the ability to be “at leisure” is one of the basic powers of the human soul.” – Josef Pieper, Leisure, the Basis of Culture How many of us really appreciate what it mean to enjoy leisure in our lives? Life … Continue reading
– Josef Pieper, Leisure, the Basis of Culture
How many of us really appreciate what it mean to enjoy leisure in our lives? Life can’t be just about work, and simply “having fun” doesn’t capture what we really need to be rejuvenated in our lives. We need to allow ourselves to just “be” and we need to also create that culture within our family. Taking time for reading, creating, or playing games is one of the ways we can have a foretaste of heaven. In this podcast we discuss this topic, but we also give a list of recommended games for different age groups and games that the whole family can play, no matter what the age!
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MP 092 : High Powered Parents https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-092-high-powered-parents/ Wed, 20 Jun 2018 10:00:51 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1100 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-092-high-powered-parents/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-092-high-powered-parents/feed/ 2 <p>To be in your child’s memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today. ~ Unknown. Be who you were made to be and you will set the world on fire. ~ St. Catherine of Siena There are parents … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-092-high-powered-parents/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-092-high-powered-parents/">MP 092 : High Powered Parents</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> To be in your child’s memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today. ~ Unknown. Be who you were made to be and you will set the world on fire. ~ St. Catherine of Siena There are parents … Continue reading Be who you were made to be and you will set the world on fire. ~ St. Catherine of Siena
There are parents in this world who are greatly gifted. They started out as Catholic men and women who were highly successful in their professional lives and had made sacrifices to get there. When children come into the picture, how do these professionals, who are now parents, order their lives to make family a top priority? In this podcast, we discuss the principles that parents can apply in ordering these goods – the good of developing your professional skill and the good of family life – towards the optimal path to holiness and wholeness. There are no simple answers, but with prayer and discussion parents can make a decision that will give them peace.
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MP 091 : King of the Home https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-091-king-home/ Wed, 30 May 2018 17:50:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1021 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-091-king-home/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-091-king-home/feed/ 0 <p>“Sanctify the family and you will sanctify the world.” No, we are not talking about dad (although he may be king of the remote!) We have a different King in mind. 62% of children say they stopped being Catholic between … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-091-king-home/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-091-king-home/">MP 091 : King of the Home</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Sanctify the family and you will sanctify the world.” No, we are not talking about dad (although he may be king of the remote!) We have a different King in mind. 62% of children say they stopped being Catholic between … Continue reading No, we are not talking about dad (although he may be king of the remote!) We have a different King in mind.
62% of children say they stopped being Catholic between the ages of 10 and 17 according to the CARA research center. This means children are losing their faith while they are under their parent’s roof. How can we make sure our kids are not part of this statistic? What can a modern Catholic family do to create an environment that helps keep our kids faithful? Where should we start? We believe the “secret weapon” for Catholic families in the Enthronement of the Sacred Heart of Jesus within your home. When families proclaim publicly that Jesus Christ is King, great mercies and graces flow into the family. Listen in as we explain what this means and how to use this “secret weapon” to keep your family close to Christ.

 
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MP 090 : Teaching Your Children Self Control https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/ Wed, 16 May 2018 15:44:16 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=1009 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/feed/ 1 <p>“Emotions are like children. You shouldn’t lock them in the trunk, but you don’t want them driving the car either” Have you ever had a child melt down because they didn’t get what they wanted? How do we respond to … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/">MP 090 : Teaching Your Children Self Control</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Emotions are like children. You shouldn’t lock them in the trunk, but you don’t want them driving the car either” Have you ever had a child melt down because they didn’t get what they wanted? How do we respond to emotional outbursts in our children? Self control is an under appreciated virtue in our modern culture, but ironically, it is the one skill we can teach our children that can help them achieve great success. Instead of embracing the maxim of today, “Just do it!” we should be echoing the slogan of the 80’s anti-drug campaign which was “Just say no!”. Our children need to learn from a young age that they CAN be in charge of how they react to their emotions, but they need your guidance and help to do this. In this podcast we give some tips and tricks on how to speak to your child and put them in the driver’s seat of life.
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MP 089 : 7 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-089-7-ways-spice-marriage/ Sat, 28 Apr 2018 19:44:47 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=990 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-089-7-ways-spice-marriage/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-089-7-ways-spice-marriage/feed/ 0 <p>“The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference” ~Elie Wiesel Have you ever felt distant from your spouse? Living like married singles in the same house? or maybe just some dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-089-7-ways-spice-marriage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-089-7-ways-spice-marriage/">MP 089 : 7 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference” ~Elie Wiesel Have you ever felt distant from your spouse? Living like married singles in the same house? or maybe just some dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through … Continue reading Have you ever felt distant from your spouse? Living like married singles in the same house? or maybe just some dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through cycles of romance and then disillusionment which can lead to true joy. But without intentional decisions and actions, marriages can get stuck in indifference and that is a very real danger. What are the most effective steps to move out of this stage? How do you overcome indifference? In this podcast we give some practical and simple advice to husbands and wives who are striving for an exceptional marriage.
Related Episodes:

* Five Love Languages
* Vulnerability in Marriage
* Arguing in Marriage

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MP 088 : Questions on Friendships, Godparents, and Special Needs Kids https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-088-questions-friendships-godparents-special-needs-kids/ Mon, 16 Apr 2018 17:49:10 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=984 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-088-questions-friendships-godparents-special-needs-kids/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-088-questions-friendships-godparents-special-needs-kids/feed/ 0 <p>We regularly get questions from our listeners on a variety of topics. Some can become podcasts, some are answered individually, but some questions are a bit in between. On this episode, we tackle someone struggling with outgrowing a friendship and … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-088-questions-friendships-godparents-special-needs-kids/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-088-questions-friendships-godparents-special-needs-kids/">MP 088 : Questions on Friendships, Godparents, and Special Needs Kids</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> We regularly get questions from our listeners on a variety of topics. Some can become podcasts, some are answered individually, but some questions are a bit in between. On this episode, we tackle someone struggling with outgrowing a friendship and … Co... Referenced episodes:

* Building Community
* Godparenting
* Evangelizing as a family
* Prepare the Way (video)

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MP 087: Fathers be good to your daughters https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-087-fathers-good-daughters/ Thu, 29 Mar 2018 02:37:38 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=977 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-087-fathers-good-daughters/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-087-fathers-good-daughters/feed/ 0 <p>Dads, no one will call you Hero like your daughter will. – Dr. Meg Meeker The Father-Daughter relationship is sweet and sometimes cute, but the reality is that it is of vital importance in the light of every girl who … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-087-fathers-good-daughters/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-087-fathers-good-daughters/">MP 087: Fathers be good to your daughters</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Dads, no one will call you Hero like your daughter will. – Dr. Meg Meeker The Father-Daughter relationship is sweet and sometimes cute, but the reality is that it is of vital importance in the light of every girl who … Continue reading The Father-Daughter relationship is sweet and sometimes cute, but the reality is that it is of vital importance in the light of every girl who will become a woman. Father’s don’t have to be perfect, but they need to be intentional about how they relate to their daughters. Well-fathered daughters enter the world with a healthy respect for themselves, and for men in general which often can help them enter into deeper, more fulfilling relationships as they enter adulthood. Listen in as we give some insight, inspiration and ideas on how you can work on your relationship with your daughter.

Resources:

* Steubenville Father Daughter Dance
* Articles and Posts from Dr. Meg Meeker on Raising Daughters
* The Surprising Ways Your Father Impacts Who You’ll Marry
* Devotional for Strong Fathers, Strong Daughter

 
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MP 086 : Navigating Family Relationships when Values Clash https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-086-navigating-family-relationships-values-clash/ Wed, 14 Mar 2018 11:00:09 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=964 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-086-navigating-family-relationships-values-clash/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-086-navigating-family-relationships-values-clash/feed/ 0 <p>“Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way…” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 Very few of us are blessed to be surrounded by people who … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-086-navigating-family-relationships-values-clash/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-086-navigating-family-relationships-values-clash/">MP 086 : Navigating Family Relationships when Values Clash</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way…” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 Very few of us are blessed to be surrounded by people who … Continue reading Very few of us are blessed to be surrounded by people who agree with us on our faith or values 100% of the time, but we need to navigate these relationships and keep them healthy in spite of our differences. This is true especially in parental relationships because honoring your parents is a commandment, without a caveat or condition. The reality is that when people are critical of our faith, our values, or our parenting choices we need to learn to respond first with love and charity. It is a simple answer but a difficult one. In this podcast, we give 5 steps in loving those who differ with us. This podcast was sponsored by an anonymous supporter who is struggling to stay in relationships with family members who disagree with their practice of the Catholic faith.
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MP 085 : We didn’t lose a son, we gained a daughter https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-085-didnt-lose-son-gained-daughter/ Thu, 01 Mar 2018 01:18:28 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=951 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-085-didnt-lose-son-gained-daughter/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-085-didnt-lose-son-gained-daughter/feed/ 2 <p>Our family is a circle of strength and love. Every joy shared adds love, every crisis faced makes the circle stronger. With every birth and every marriage, the circle grows. All of the parenting we have done for our son … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-085-didnt-lose-son-gained-daughter/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-085-didnt-lose-son-gained-daughter/">MP 085 : We didn’t lose a son, we gained a daughter</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Our family is a circle of strength and love. Every joy shared adds love, every crisis faced makes the circle stronger. With every birth and every marriage, the circle grows. All of the parenting we have done for our son has led up to this point. The point where he separates from us and forms his own family. Feb 10, 2017 our son Patrick married Cassie in our hometown of Steubenville and it was a wedding to remember! Not everything went perfectly as planned, but that didn’t matter. The bride and groom beautifully reflected the love that God has for all of us and the formation of this new family should give all Catholics another reason to hope. We are so proud of our son and our new daughter, and we hope you are inspired by their wedding story! Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 50:30 MP 084 : Screens and Your Child https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-084-screens-child/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 04:20:39 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=945 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-084-screens-child/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-084-screens-child/feed/ 0 <p>Screens are part of our world and they are here to stay. TV, computers, smartphones, tablets are all around us and becoming an essential element in our everyday lives. Though many would like to demonize these devices, the reality is … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-084-screens-child/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-084-screens-child/">MP 084 : Screens and Your Child</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Screens are part of our world and they are here to stay. TV, computers, smartphones, tablets are all around us and becoming an essential element in our everyday lives. Though many would like to demonize these devices, the reality is … Continue reading “Their performance might be high in gaming and internet information processing, but what about performance in low-tech activities such as building relationships? Parenting? Achieving greatness at anything, from sports to music to business?” ~Amy and Evelyn Guttmann
Links:

* What Screen Time and Screen Media Do To Your Child’s Brain and Sensory Processing Ability
* American Academy of Pediatrics: Media Use by Children
* Previous Messy Parenting episode on Kids and Technology

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MP 083 : Decisions, decisions, but what does God want? https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-083-decisions-decisions-but-what-does-god-want/ Mon, 22 Jan 2018 09:00:44 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=934 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-083-decisions-decisions-but-what-does-god-want/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-083-decisions-decisions-but-what-does-god-want/feed/ 0 <p>“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Ps 37:4 Making decisions is a stressful and sometimes difficult task for most of us, especially when you are a parent.  Deciding where to live, what … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-083-decisions-decisions-but-what-does-god-want/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-083-decisions-decisions-but-what-does-god-want/">MP 083 : Decisions, decisions, but what does God want?</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Ps 37:4 Making decisions is a stressful and sometimes difficult task for most of us, especially when you are a parent.  Deciding where to live, what … Continue reading Making decisions is a stressful and sometimes difficult task for most of us, especially when you are a parent.  Deciding where to live, what job to take, or how to educate your children are probably 3 of the most important decisions you will make.  How can you know what God wants?  How can you figure out what is best for you and for your family?  In this podcast, we discuss things to consider when you have to make a big decision.  God wants to bless you.  Just seek His face, stay close to Him and don’t stress out!
Resources:

* Fr. Mike Scanlan’s What Does God Want
* TV Show with Fr. Timothy Gallagher on Discovering God’s Will
* Related podcast: MP 033: Educational Choice

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MP 082 : What can you give this Christmas? https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-082-can-give-christmas/ Mon, 18 Dec 2017 16:46:19 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=896 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-082-can-give-christmas/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-082-can-give-christmas/feed/ 0 <p>We are all looking for the perfect gift. What gift is more treasured than our Lord? Many of you deeply desire for your children to know Christ in a special way this Christmas. In this video broadcast, we encourage you … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-082-can-give-christmas/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-082-can-give-christmas/">MP 082 : What can you give this Christmas?</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> We are all looking for the perfect gift. What gift is more treasured than our Lord? Many of you deeply desire for your children to know Christ in a special way this Christmas. In this video broadcast, we encourage you … Continue reading
This is our fourth Advent broadcast and would love to hear your reaction. By signing up for our email newsletter we will also send you links for a great Christmas album that your family will enjoy. At the end of this is a sample with our daughters singing the Angel Gabriel.
Related episodes:

* Holidays with In-laws and Out-laws
* Forgiveness
* Family Prayer
* Busyness

 
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MP 081 : Advent – Making the Word of God Flesh in Your Home https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-081-advent-making-the-word-of-god-flesh-in-your-home/ Sun, 03 Dec 2017 16:48:00 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=874 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-081-advent-making-the-word-of-god-flesh-in-your-home/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-081-advent-making-the-word-of-god-flesh-in-your-home/feed/ 1 <p>Make Advent a time to renew your family’s faith life with scripture. This the audio version from the Advent video series from Messy Parenting. Our hope with this series is to help you make Jesus Christ the King of your … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-081-advent-making-the-word-of-god-flesh-in-your-home/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-081-advent-making-the-word-of-god-flesh-in-your-home/">MP 081 : Advent – Making the Word of God Flesh in Your Home</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Make Advent a time to renew your family’s faith life with scripture. This the audio version from the Advent video series from Messy Parenting. Our hope with this series is to help you make Jesus Christ the King of your … Continue reading This the audio version from the Advent video series from Messy Parenting. Our hope with this series is to help you make Jesus Christ the King of your family and unleash God’s power in your parenting. This is the second of the four part series.
This week we focus on “Making the Word of God Flesh in Your Home”. In 20 minutes we share 3 ways to make scripture come alive this Advent (and throughout the year).
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MP 080 : Making Room for Jesus https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-080-making-room-for-jesus/ Mon, 27 Nov 2017 14:00:48 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=857 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-080-making-room-for-jesus/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-080-making-room-for-jesus/feed/ 0 <p>“Seven days without prayer makes one weak.” The days between Thanksgiving and Christmas are full of many tasks, which are fun and beautiful, but also may take our eyes off of the One we need most at this time. Making … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-080-making-room-for-jesus/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-080-making-room-for-jesus/">MP 080 : Making Room for Jesus</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "Seven days without prayer makes one weak." The days between Thanksgiving and Christmas are full of many tasks, which are fun and beautiful, but also may take our eyes off of the One we need most at this time. Making room for prayer in our busy schedules isn’t just something that is important during Advent, it’s an essential part of parenting and living as a Catholic in this crazy world. In this podcast, we take some time to define WHY we should pray, HOW you can pray, and, most importantly, WHEN you can pray. Subscriber for newsletter for Advent Video Broadcast and daily meditations for the Jesse Tree at http://www.messyparenting.org. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 52:53 MP 079 : The Irreplaceable Role of Parents https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/ Tue, 14 Nov 2017 06:57:37 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=814 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/feed/ 4 <p>“A child will have many friends and companions in their lives, but they will only ever have two parents.” ~Mike and Alicia The role of parents in the lives of their children cannot be underestimated. Of course we have a … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/">MP 079 : The Irreplaceable Role of Parents</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “A child will have many friends and companions in their lives, but they will only ever have two parents.” ~Mike and Alicia The role of parents in the lives of their children cannot be underestimated. Of course we have a … Continue reading The role of parents in the lives of their children cannot be underestimated. Of course we have a natural role – we are to protect and provide for our offspring- but we sometimes forget that we have an irreplaceable role in the spiritual and emotional lives of our children as well. There are many messages from the world telling us otherwise, but we need to stand firm in the truth that we have a dignity and responsibility as parents. When your children are young you cannot be your child’s friend, or companion, or buddy. You need to be the authority figure, the protector, the image of God the Father to them. This is a daunting task, but God will give you the grace you need.
What is your “irreplaceable role”? How can you take your rightful place in the life of your child in a way that no one else can?

* Protect them- Infants and toddlers need protecting, but so do teenagers. Looks different, but someone has to do it.
* Provide for them- We realize we need to give food, clothing and shelter, but we also need to provide for kids emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
* Form them- You are the first and best teacher of your child. Lean into that role and use the power of your relationship to speak to their heart.
* Be a student of your child- Observe them. Learn their personality type. Find what motivates them. This is true at every age. We all want to be known and it gives a person security like nothing else to be “known” by their parents.
* Invest in them- You could die tomorrow and in a few weeks you would be replaced at work, but your children would be changed forever by your loss. Your family is the greatest return on your investment. And they need you more than anyone else.
* Sense of identity and belonging- Your child is a son or daughter of God and you are the one to confirm that identity on them. Create a family culture so your child knows that when the world beats them up, they will always know who they are and have a place in your home.
* Sense of purpose- One of the highest and most important needs of man is a sense of purpose. Children need to know that God has a plan for their lives, that He has a mission specifically for them. Their life as a purpose, and you will be there to walk beside them and find that purpose together.

Join us for a 4 week Advent Series to make Jesus Christ the King of your home. Starting the weekend after Thanksgiving we will be sharing via interactive video about how to deepen the faith in your family. The four part live video series will be recorded and posted for later viewing by patrons and sponsors. Sign up for our newsletter to stay in the loop and for more information on this series.
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MP 078 : Raising Resilient Kids https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-078-raising-resilient-kids/ Tue, 31 Oct 2017 03:18:41 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=794 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-078-raising-resilient-kids/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-078-raising-resilient-kids/feed/ 0 <p>“Life is pain, your highness. And anyone who tells you differently is selling something.” – The Princess Bride Children today are less able to deal with failure, rejection, and pain than ever before. As parents, we hate to see our … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-078-raising-resilient-kids/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-078-raising-resilient-kids/">MP 078 : Raising Resilient Kids</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Life is pain, your highness. And anyone who tells you differently is selling something.” – The Princess Bride Children today are less able to deal with failure, rejection, and pain than ever before. As parents, we hate to see our … Continue reading Children today are less able to deal with failure, rejection, and pain than ever before. As parents, we hate to see our children suffer, but how do we prepare them for real life? How do we help to make them strong, but flexible at the same time? In this podcast, we discuss how hard it is to see our precious children struggle, and we point out the pitfalls that parents can easily fall into. We also give three principles you can implement in your parenting to help form resilient kids.
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MP 077 : Preparing to Launch https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-077-preparing-to-launch/ Mon, 16 Oct 2017 10:00:23 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=737 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-077-preparing-to-launch/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-077-preparing-to-launch/feed/ 1 <p>“You left just as you were becoming interesting.” ~ Professor Henry Jones to Indiana Jones All throughout our children’s lives we are laying a foundation. A foundation upon which the rest of their lives will be built. How we relate … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-077-preparing-to-launch/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-077-preparing-to-launch/">MP 077 : Preparing to Launch</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> You left just as you were becoming interesting.” - Professor Henry Jones to Indiana Jones All throughout our children’s lives we are laying a foundation. A foundation upon which the rest of their lives will be built. How we relate to them, the consequences we provide, the teaching we give when they are teens (or even younger) will affect how we relate to them when they become adults. Parenting an adult child can be amazingly satisfying or heart-breaking depending on the decisions they make. In this podcast, we give 7 tips on how to parent your adult child and help them to launch into the world of adulthood. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 50:53 MP 076 : Anger in Parenting https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-076-anger-in-parenting/ Mon, 25 Sep 2017 09:00:33 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=726 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-076-anger-in-parenting/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-076-anger-in-parenting/feed/ 2 <p>“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one” ~ Benjamin Franklin We thought we were really nice people before we had kids. Our children can sometimes trigger anger in us that we didn’t even realize was … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-076-anger-in-parenting/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-076-anger-in-parenting/">MP 076 : Anger in Parenting</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one” ~ Benjamin Franklin We thought we were really nice people before we had kids. Our children can sometimes trigger anger in us that we didn’t even realize was there and we can even surprise ourselves with its violence. To overcome unrighteous anger, we need to understand why we get angry (sometimes its not unjustified!) and make a plan for how we are going to deal with it. This can be a difficult issue for many people because it takes humility to admit when we are wrong, and vulnerability to deal with our own brokenness. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 55:00 MP 075 : Godparenting https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-075-godparenting/ Thu, 07 Sep 2017 00:46:09 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=712 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-075-godparenting/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-075-godparenting/feed/ 0 <p>“For the grace of Baptism to unfold, the parents’ help is important. So too is the role of the godfather and godmother, who must be firm believers, able and ready to help the newly baptized on the road of Christian … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-075-godparenting/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-075-godparenting/">MP 075 : Godparenting</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “For the grace of Baptism to unfold, the parents' help is important. So too is the role of the godfather and godmother, who must be firm believers, able and ready to help the newly baptized on the road of Christian life.” CCC1255 Our world presents images of cartoon fairy godmothers and mob boss godfathers, but in actuality, being a godparent is a life-long commitment of spiritual significance. To be an effective godparent we need to be in relationship with our godchild as a Christian witness as we assist the parents in the faith formation of their child. In this episode we discuss how to choose a godparent, the importance of godparents in the life of the child, and how to be a godparent that actually makes an impact in the life of a young Catholic. Listen in to learn more about this important relationship.  This sponsored podcast is dedicated to Katie Stockermans. Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 41:10 MP 074 : Busy-ness https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-074-busy-ness/ Fri, 11 Aug 2017 14:14:33 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=707 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-074-busy-ness/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-074-busy-ness/feed/ 0 <p>“If the devil cannot make us bad, he will make us busy.” ~ Corrie TenBoom If we are too busy to pray, to eat with our family, to play with our kids, then we are too busy. When we look … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-074-busy-ness/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-074-busy-ness/">MP 074 : Busy-ness</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “If the devil cannot make us bad, he will make us busy.” ~ Corrie TenBoom If we are too busy to pray, to eat with our family, to play with our kids, then we are too busy. When we look … Continue reading If we are too busy to pray, to eat with our family, to play with our kids, then we are too busy. When we look at our family’s schedule we need to make sure that we have the “big rocks” in place. We need to make sure that we invest time in those things that we say are our top priorities. Show me how you spend your time, and I will show you what you value. In this podcast we talk about families and our busy schedules. We look at how we can juggle it all and make wise choices for our children and ourselves. Really, most of our podcast ideas boil down to this – how do you make it all happen?
Episode Sponsor: The Master Planner
Related Episodes:

* Kids and Activities
* Raising confident kids who aren’t full of themselves
* Overwhelmed
* Family Board Meeting

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MP 073 : Reaching Out – Evangelizing as a Family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-073-reaching-out-evangelizing-as-a-family/ Tue, 18 Jul 2017 08:00:59 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=652 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-073-reaching-out-evangelizing-as-a-family/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-073-reaching-out-evangelizing-as-a-family/feed/ 0 <p>The future of evangelization depends in great part on the Church of the home ~ St. John Paul the Great Every Catholic is called to evangelize. No matter where you are in life, we are to spreading the gospel of … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-073-reaching-out-evangelizing-as-a-family/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-073-reaching-out-evangelizing-as-a-family/">MP 073 : Reaching Out – Evangelizing as a Family</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> The future of evangelization depends in great part on the Church of the home ~ St. John Paul the Great Every Catholic is called to evangelize. No matter where you are in life, we are to spreading the gospel of … Continue reading
~ St. John Paul the Great
Every Catholic is called to evangelize. No matter where you are in life, we are to spreading the gospel of Christ in all we do. Does that mean that we need to carry a bible in the diaper bag and preach on the street? Not necessarily (though a bible in your diaper bag is a good idea!), the first step in evangelization is to love. When we evangelize as a family, that means that we first love, serve, and preach the gospel to our own children as we create a home in which others can come to be served and cared for. Your family can be a witness to Christ as you show how to love as Jesus loved. This podcast was sponsored by Sean and Aine Ascough of Ireland!
Related Podcasts:

* Evangelizing your Kids
* Passing on the Faith (interview with parents of 10 & grandparents of 40)
* Scripture and the Family

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MP 072 : Chastity – its not just for teenagers https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-072-chastity-its-not-just-for-teenagers/ Mon, 26 Jun 2017 18:18:14 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=644 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-072-chastity-its-not-just-for-teenagers/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-072-chastity-its-not-just-for-teenagers/feed/ 0 <p>“The more ready you are to give yourselves to God and to others, the more you will discover the authentic meaning of life.” ― Jason Evert, Saint John Paul the Great: His Five Loves Chastity is a Fruit of the … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-072-chastity-its-not-just-for-teenagers/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-072-chastity-its-not-just-for-teenagers/">MP 072 : Chastity – its not just for teenagers</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “The more ready you are to give yourselves to God and to others, the more you will discover the authentic meaning of life.” ― Jason Evert, Saint John Paul the Great: His Five Loves Chastity is a Fruit of the … Continue reading
― Jason Evert, Saint John Paul the Great: His Five Loves
Chastity is a Fruit of the Holy Spirit and a virtue that frees us to love others for who they are, not for what they do for us. The foundation of chastity should be intentionally laid when our children are young so this virtue can fully flower in the teen years and beyond. This podcast isn’t a “chastity talk”; its 50 minutes of practical advice on what this virtue looks like when a family of all different ages and stages of development is living it out. Thank you to the Piwnicki family from St. Thomas the Apostle Church in Crystal Lake, IL for sponsoring this podcast!
Related Podcasts:

* Importance of Friendships for your Kids
* Preparing Your Tween and Yourself for Adolescence
* Messy Parenting Guide to Dating
Great Books:
* Raising Pure Teens by Jason Evert and Chris Stefanick
* Theology of His/Her Body  by Jason Evert

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MP 071 : Enjoying your Toddler https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-071-enjoying-your-toddler/ Tue, 13 Jun 2017 07:00:38 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=637 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-071-enjoying-your-toddler/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-071-enjoying-your-toddler/feed/ 0 <p>“You can learn many things from toddlers, for example, how much patience you really have” ~Anonymous One blessing of having 10 kids is that we have matured and learned enough about kids to appreciate the toddler years of children #9 … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-071-enjoying-your-toddler/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-071-enjoying-your-toddler/">MP 071 : Enjoying your Toddler</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “You can learn many things from toddlers, for example, how much patience you really have” ~Anonymous One blessing of having 10 kids is that we have matured and learned enough about kids to appreciate the toddler years of children #9 and 10 much more than those years with children #1 and 2. Our advice to parents of toddlers is to start by enjoying them. Its hard to do when they are destroying your house and embarrassing you in public, but with a few strategies and consistency on your part, you can begin to see that this little bundle of creative energy has been amazingly designed by the Divine Creator. It’s all part of His plan to get this child to adulthood and independence, and to get you to heaven! Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 47:29 MP 070 : Where do priests come from? https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-070-where-do-priests-come-from/ Tue, 09 May 2017 10:00:09 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=617 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-070-where-do-priests-come-from/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-070-where-do-priests-come-from/feed/ 0 <p>“It is in the family that young people have their first experience of Gospel values and of the love which gives itself to God and to others.” ~ St. John Paul the Great As Catholic families, we want our children … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-070-where-do-priests-come-from/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-070-where-do-priests-come-from/">MP 070 : Where do priests come from?</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “It is in the family that young people have their first experience of Gospel values and of the love which gives itself to God and to others.” ~ St. John Paul the Great As Catholic families, we want our children to be open to the call to priesthood or religious life, but how do we do that in a practical way? Where does this call come from? How can we support our children in responding to that call? Ultimately, the answer comes down to teaching our children to love and know Jesus, because the path ahead of them can only be walked with His help. In this podcast, Father Joe Doman, Alicia’s younger brother, shares his vocation story and insights into how the laity can foster vocations. We also discuss how to support the priests who care for us in our parishes.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 52:12
MP 069 : Food, Family, and Faith https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-069-food-family-and-faith/ Wed, 26 Apr 2017 02:55:52 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=595 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-069-food-family-and-faith/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-069-food-family-and-faith/feed/ 0 <p>“Wine is a constant proof that God loves us and loves to see us happy.” ~Ben Franklin God could have made food boring, dull, and simply to sustain us. But He didn’t. He made food good! Added with human creativity … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-069-food-family-and-faith/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-069-food-family-and-faith/">MP 069 : Food, Family, and Faith</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Wine is a constant proof that God loves us and loves to see us happy.” ~Ben Franklin God could have made food boring, dull, and simply to sustain us. But He didn’t. He made food good! Added with human creativity and work, food becomes a sign of love to our families. Parents work to buy food, prepare food, and serve food to nourish their children. It’s amazing how much work goes into just feeding people! In this podcast we talk about feeding babies, the kind of food we give our kids, our perspective on organic and non-GMO foods, and why we think its important to consider your philosophy of food that you are passing on to your kids.
Additional Resources:

* Grace Before Meals (Fr. Leo is awesome!)
* The Catholic Table (great book and blog!)
* Once a Month Cooking (Cook book)

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MP 068 : What does it take to get married https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-068-what-does-it-take-to-get-married/ Thu, 06 Apr 2017 03:37:50 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=588 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-068-what-does-it-take-to-get-married/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-068-what-does-it-take-to-get-married/feed/ 0 <p>“More than ever necessary in our times is preparation of young people for marriage and family life.” – St. John Paul II, Familiaris Consortio Preparing for a wedding can be a whirl of appointments, deposits, planning, decision-making, “Pintresting”, and, sometimes, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-068-what-does-it-take-to-get-married/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-068-what-does-it-take-to-get-married/">MP 068 : What does it take to get married</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “More than ever necessary in our times is preparation of young people for marriage and family life.” – St. John Paul II, Familiaris Consortio Preparing for a wedding can be a whirl of appointments, deposits, planning, decision-making, “Pintresting”, and, sometimes, drama. But the wedding is just a day, marriage is a life time. Preparing for marriage is a very serious and important task for any couple. Marriage is naturally fraught with difficulties, and in our culture today that is especially true. There is little support for faithful marriage and many of us come from families who have given us poor examples of what a healthy marriage should look like. In this podcast we give some topics that couples really need to discuss as well as some of our own insights of how to renew the sacrament of marriage in our church.
Some Resources Mentioned:

* Catholic Bishops on Marriage
* Fr. John Riccardo – Biblical Vision for Marriage Pt 1(iTunes)
* Beloved DVD Series

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MP 067 : Evangelizing Your Kids https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-67-evangelizing-your-kids/ Wed, 15 Mar 2017 09:59:16 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=575 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-67-evangelizing-your-kids/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-67-evangelizing-your-kids/feed/ 0 <p>“The future of evangelization depends in great part on the Church of the home [the family].” – St. John Paul II The deepest desire for many of us as parents is to pass on the faith to our children. According … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-67-evangelizing-your-kids/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-67-evangelizing-your-kids/">MP 067 : Evangelizing Your Kids</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “The future of evangelization depends in great part on the Church of the home [the family].” - St. John Paul II “The future of evangelization depends in great part on the Church of the home [the family].”

– St. John Paul II
The deepest desire for many of us as parents is to pass on the faith to our children. According to many statistics upwards of two-thirds of young people are leaving the faith. so its obvious that most parents are facing an uphill battle. Parents must be intentional about the evangelization of their children. What is the secret formula for success? What does it look like to be an evangelizing parent? In this podcast, we share the TOP FIVE WAYS to evangelize your kids. Gain some insight, spark a conversation, and go deeper in the work of evangelization. Listen in and share your ideas.
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MP 066 : Keeping Your Love Alive https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-066-keeping-your-love-alive/ Thu, 02 Mar 2017 09:00:09 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=567 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-066-keeping-your-love-alive/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-066-keeping-your-love-alive/feed/ 0 <p>“Once you’re a parent, your relationship matters more, not less, because now other people are counting on you.” ~ TheDatingDivas.com Marriage is under attack, but many times the attack is not direct and aggressive. Instead, it is slow and subtle … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-066-keeping-your-love-alive/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-066-keeping-your-love-alive/">MP 066 : Keeping Your Love Alive</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Once you’re a parent, your relationship matters more, not less, because now other people are counting on you.” ~ TheDatingDivas.com
~ TheDatingDivas.com
Marriage is under attack, but many times the attack is not direct and aggressive. Instead, it is slow and subtle – couples simply drift apart. How do we keep this from happening in our marriages? In this podcast we give 5 ways to keep your love alive in your relationship. We must continue to pursue and discover our spouse, no matter how long you have been married or how well you know each other. During this episode we also share a new and exciting way that our listeners can help us spread this ministry of Messy Parenting. Listen in!
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 57:03
MP 065 : Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers – Part 2 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-065-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-2/ Tue, 14 Feb 2017 04:09:42 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=555 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-065-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-2/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-065-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-2/feed/ 0 <p>This is part two of our podcast on teenagers. There are few tasks in parenting that can be as rewarding but also as challenging as disciplining sons and daughters who are moving from childhood to adulthood – otherwise known as … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-065-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-2/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-065-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-2/">MP 065 : Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers – Part 2</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Don't throw away your friendship with your teenager over behavior that has no great moral significance. There will be plenty of real issues that require you to stand like a rock. Save your big guns for those crucial confrontations. ~Dr. James Dobson ]]> Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 44:23 MP 064 : Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers – Part 1 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/ Tue, 07 Feb 2017 06:00:51 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=549 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/feed/ 0 <p>Don’t throw away your friendship with your teenager over behavior that has no great moral significance. There will be plenty of real issues that require you to stand like a rock. Save your big guns for those crucial confrontations. ~Dr. … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/">MP 064 : Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers – Part 1</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Don't throw away your friendship with your teenager over behavior that has no great moral significance. There will be plenty of real issues that require you to stand like a rock. Save your big guns for those crucial confrontations. ~Dr. James Dobson
~Dr. James Dobson
There are few tasks in parenting that can be as rewarding but also as challenging as disciplining sons and daughters who are moving from childhood to adulthood – otherwise known as teenagers. This is an important time of transition for them, and it is a time of transition for parents as well. Old ways of communicating and protecting them will not be as effective as they were. Some families breeze through this time, while it takes a heavy toll on others. In this podcast, we would like to give some foundational principles that we have found very helpful in discipling, not just disciplining, children who are going through this amazing and critical transformation in their lives. This podcast had so much information in it, that we decided to break it up into 2 parts. The second part will be out next week.
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MP 063 : Fr. Mike Scanlan, our spiritual father https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-063-fr-mike-scanlan-our-spiritual-father/ Wed, 18 Jan 2017 04:07:44 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=526 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-063-fr-mike-scanlan-our-spiritual-father/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-063-fr-mike-scanlan-our-spiritual-father/feed/ 1 <p>“Father Mike Scanlan was a priest of the New Evangelization before there was a New Evangelization,” ~ George Weigel Father Michael Scanlan, TOR, impacted many lives with the saving message of Jesus Christ. He was a friar, priest, preacher, teacher, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-063-fr-mike-scanlan-our-spiritual-father/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-063-fr-mike-scanlan-our-spiritual-father/">MP 063 : Fr. Mike Scanlan, our spiritual father</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Father Mike Scanlan was a priest of the New Evangelization before there was a New Evangelization,” ~ George Weigel Father Michael Scanlan, TOR, impacted many lives with the saving message of Jesus Christ. He was a friar, priest, preacher, teacher, healer, president, but to us he was our spiritual father. In this podcast we take some time to reflect on the lessons that we have learned from this man that we would like to share and continue to make real in our lives. We know you will benefit in hearing about this great man because he taught us both how to love Jesus, in a deep, real, intimate way. We hope we can honor his legacy by continuing to proclaim the gospel in the best way we know how- by sharing these stories with you. The debt we owe him is beyond all measure. Thank you Jesus for this gift, this privilege, this humble friar who has changed our life for all eternity.  #FatherMike
For more information, videos and more on Fr. Mike: www.franciscan.edu/FatherMike/
 
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MP 062 : Family History https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-062-family-history/ Thu, 05 Jan 2017 12:40:24 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=521 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-062-family-history/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-062-family-history/feed/ 0 <p>“Human beings look separate because you see them walking about separately. But then we are so made that we can see only the present moment. If we could see the past, then of course it would look different. For there … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-062-family-history/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-062-family-history/">MP 062 : Family History</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Human beings look separate because you see them walking about separately. But then we are so made that we can see only the present moment. If we could see the past, then of course it would look different. For there was a time when every man was part o...
― C.S. Lewis
We all come from somewhere. We are part of the human family, but also we are part of a particular family with a history. So many of us, especially Americans, have lost the appreciation for our family tree that we should have. It’s important that we know where we come from, so we can pass that on to our children and to future generations. In this podcast we talk not only about ancestry and the importance of knowing it, but also of keeping connections with extended family and keeping our own family history through videos, keepsakes, and photos. All of these things are important in keeping us grounded in our place in history.
Catholic tangent from show: I Ain’t Afraid of No Ghosts!
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MP 061 : Listener Questions Answered https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-061-listener-questions-answered/ Wed, 14 Dec 2016 03:57:18 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=514 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-061-listener-questions-answered/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-061-listener-questions-answered/feed/ 1 <p>“In children we have a great charge committed to us. Let us bestow great care upon them…Form the soul of thy son aright, and all the rest will be added hereafter.” —St. John Chrysostom We are so grateful for all … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-061-listener-questions-answered/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-061-listener-questions-answered/">MP 061 : Listener Questions Answered</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “In children we have a great charge committed to us. Let us bestow great care upon them…Form the soul of thy son aright, and all the rest will be added hereafter.” —St. John Chrysostom We are so grateful for all the people who have emailed us encouraging words and stories of how these podcasts have touched their lives. We are MOST grateful for those people who email us questions, because we can use them as topics for our podcasts! Thank you for trusting us enough to ask for our help. In this episode we take some time to answer questions and give encouragement to those who have asked us about issues like teaching gratefulness, getting kids to sleep, and tithing. Keep those questions coming!
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MP 060 : Forgiveness https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-060-forgiveness/ Mon, 05 Dec 2016 04:29:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=503 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-060-forgiveness/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-060-forgiveness/feed/ 0 <p>“Harboring unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” Unforgiveness destroys marriages, relationships, families, and communities, but forgiveness is the most powerful weapon we have as Christians. When we forgive, with the grace of God, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-060-forgiveness/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-060-forgiveness/">MP 060 : Forgiveness</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Harboring unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” Unforgiveness destroys marriages, relationships, families, and communities, but forgiveness is the most powerful weapon we have as Christians. When we forgive, with the grace of God, we are free from the power that any person and their actions have over us. Sometimes forgiveness seems impossible, and if it is dependent on us, then it would be, but we are not alone. Listen in as we talk about what it means to forgive and how to do it.
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MP 059 : Prepare the Way of the Lord https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-059-prepare-the-way-of-the-lord/ Sun, 20 Nov 2016 23:17:47 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=498 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-059-prepare-the-way-of-the-lord/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-059-prepare-the-way-of-the-lord/feed/ 0 <p>The birth of Jesus brings us the good news that we are loved immensely and uniquely by God – Pope Francis The Advent season is more than just a countdown to Christmas. It is a time of preparation for the … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-059-prepare-the-way-of-the-lord/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-059-prepare-the-way-of-the-lord/">MP 059 : Prepare the Way of the Lord</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> The birth of Jesus brings us the good news that we are loved immensely and uniquely by God – Pope Francis The Advent season is more than just a countdown to Christmas. It is a time of preparation for the coming of Christ –  His coming at Christmas and His second coming. The Church gives us many beautiful traditions to help us lead our children to focus on more than just presents and treats, but instead on the true celebration of the gift of Jesus! In this podcast we share some ideas and inspiration on what we do for Advent and how to inspire your family in this journey to Bethlehem.
Previous podcasts of interest:

* MP 036 : Holidays with In-laws and Out-laws
* MP 021 : Visiting Family

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MP 058 : Becoming a Parent https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-058-becoming-a-parent/ Mon, 31 Oct 2016 10:00:19 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=492 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-058-becoming-a-parent/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-058-becoming-a-parent/feed/ 1 <p>“I don’t know what’s more exhausting about parenting: the getting up early, or acting like you know what you’re doing.” ~ Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat Babies are a joy. People will tell you that no one can describe what … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-058-becoming-a-parent/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-058-becoming-a-parent/">MP 058 : Becoming a Parent</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “I don't know what's more exhausting about parenting: the getting up early, or acting like you know what you're doing.” ~ Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat
~ Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat
Babies are a joy. People will tell you that no one can describe what its like to be a parent and they are right! Parenthood is something that has to be experienced because you can’t explain it. God has this amazing way of combining an experience that is exciting, frustrating, amazing, and discouraging all at once. He does all this to form us into who He wants us to be which is the best version of ourselves. In this podcast we offer some encouragement, a dose of realism, and of course, practical advice in navigating the transition of being a married couple, to being parents.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 47:41
MP 057 : A Messy Parenting Election Guide https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-057-a-messy-parenting-election-guide/ Mon, 17 Oct 2016 11:36:30 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=489 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-057-a-messy-parenting-election-guide/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-057-a-messy-parenting-election-guide/feed/ 1 <p>Warning! Political Talk Ahead! “The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing” ~ Edmund Burke This election is a difficult one for many reasons. What is a good Catholic to do? Over the … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-057-a-messy-parenting-election-guide/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-057-a-messy-parenting-election-guide/">MP 057 : A Messy Parenting Election Guide</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Warning! Political Talk Ahead! “The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing” ~ Edmund Burke
This election is a difficult one for many reasons. What is a good Catholic to do? Over the years, Mike has been involved in politics on the local, state, and federal level. He has had time to think and pray about some principles that apply to this election in America, but also to elections in other countries and at other times. We think you will find this advice practical and helpful as we navigate these muddy waters in our election this year.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 47:42
MP 056 : To Tithe or Not to Tithe https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-056-to-tithe-or-not-to-tithe/ Thu, 06 Oct 2016 04:21:47 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=485 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-056-to-tithe-or-not-to-tithe/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-056-to-tithe-or-not-to-tithe/feed/ 0 <p>…do good, be rich in good deeds, and be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-056-to-tithe-or-not-to-tithe/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-056-to-tithe-or-not-to-tithe/">MP 056 : To Tithe or Not to Tithe</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> …do good, be rich in good deeds, and be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the … Continue reading Where we spend our money is a very personal decision. The fruits of our labors are important and where our money goes reflects our values. Giving money away is where the rubber hits the road in our relationship with God. How much to we recognize that we are dependent on Him? Do we really give Him all we have? Using part of our hard earned money to serve the Lord is a reflection of our lives that are given to Him. Listen in to hear our philosophy, but also some practical advice on how to discern what God is calling you to in giving some of our resources to the service of His Kingdom.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 45:33
MP 055 : Overwhelmed https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-055-overwhelmed/ Mon, 26 Sep 2016 23:53:55 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=475 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-055-overwhelmed/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-055-overwhelmed/feed/ 0 <p>I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle; I just wish He didn’t trust me so much. The common answer when people ask “How are you doing?” is often, “I am so busy!” Sometimes being busy is good, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-055-overwhelmed/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-055-overwhelmed/">MP 055 : Overwhelmed</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle; I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.
I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.
The common answer when people ask “How are you doing?” is often, “I am so busy!” Sometimes being busy is good, but when you feel as if you are riding the crest of a wave, but you trip and the wave crashes over you, something has to give. There are many things about being a parent that are overwhelming, because much of what we are dealing with is new to us! When you are overwhelmed, parents need to stop and reevaluate. Listen in to this podcast – our first in a few weeks! – where we give some sympathy, empathy, but also some good ideas of how to deal with the common experience of being overwhelmed.
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MP 054 : Vulnerability in Marriage https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-054-vulnerability-in-marriage/ Thu, 28 Jul 2016 17:18:19 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=465 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-054-vulnerability-in-marriage/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-054-vulnerability-in-marriage/feed/ 0 <p>“To love is to be vulnerable.” – C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves Many cry that marriage is under attack, but often the attack is actually more like a cancer that creeps into our relationship with the person that we should … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-054-vulnerability-in-marriage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-054-vulnerability-in-marriage/">MP 054 : Vulnerability in Marriage</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “To love is to be vulnerable.” - C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
– C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
Many cry that marriage is under attack, but often the attack is actually more like a cancer that creeps into our relationship with the person that we should feel totally safe with – our spouse. For our marriages to grow, we need to reveal ourselves to the other and this involves risk. For many men, the risk is seeming weak. For women, the risk is getting hurt. But there really is no option! In the married relationship you are either growing or dying. We need to all learn how to honestly share our inmost thoughts and feelings in the context of marriage if our marriage is truly going to bring us life. In this podcast, we talk about what holds us back, why we should go forward, and what the fruit of vulnerability is in our marriage.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 43:56
MP 053 : Teaching Respect for Authority https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-053-teaching-respect-for-authority/ Thu, 21 Jul 2016 16:52:28 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=462 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-053-teaching-respect-for-authority/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-053-teaching-respect-for-authority/feed/ 0 <p>Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. – Romans 13:1 Every day it seems like we hear of another … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-053-teaching-respect-for-authority/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-053-teaching-respect-for-authority/">MP 053 : Teaching Respect for Authority</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. - Romans 13:1
– Romans 13:1
Every day it seems like we hear of another act of violence by police or against police. Where is the respect for authority in our culture? How can we teach respect to our children? Actually, the more important question is why should we teach that to our children? In this podcast we talk about the importance of respect for authority because authority ultimately comes from God. Our culture right now has a disrespect for authority. We need to change that and it starts with our own family.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 41:03
MP 052: YES, Your Kids CAN be Best Friends https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-052-yes-your-kids-can-be-best-friends/ Tue, 07 Jun 2016 17:57:07 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=454 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-052-yes-your-kids-can-be-best-friends/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-052-yes-your-kids-can-be-best-friends/feed/ 0 <p>I don’t believe an accident of birth makes people brothers or sisters. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood or brotherhood is a condition people have to work at. – Maya Angelou Growing up all we remember … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-052-yes-your-kids-can-be-best-friends/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-052-yes-your-kids-can-be-best-friends/">MP 052: YES, Your Kids CAN be Best Friends</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> I don’t believe an accident of birth makes people brothers or sisters. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood or brotherhood is a condition people have to work at. – Maya Angelou
– Maya Angelou
Growing up all we remember was fighting with our siblings. Now, they are our best friends, an integral part of our identity. Creating an environment in which siblings can form sisterhood and brotherhood should be an essential part of your parenting playbook. Your children’s relationships need to survive distance, conflict and the test of time long after you are gone. How do you do that now? How do you make that a priority in your family? Listen in as we share our experiences as siblings and as parents of a large Catholic family.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 46:13
MP 051 : Worrying is Against My Religion https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-051-worrying-is-against-my-religion/ Wed, 25 May 2016 03:07:45 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=451 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-051-worrying-is-against-my-religion/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-051-worrying-is-against-my-religion/feed/ 1 <p>“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-051-worrying-is-against-my-religion/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-051-worrying-is-against-my-religion/">MP 051 : Worrying is Against My Religion</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” Matthew 6:26-27 Parents worry about so many things. When you have kids its like part of your heart is walking around outside of you! What is worth the mental and emotional energy of concern on your part and what is not? In this podcast we discuss the things that parents worry about and the Catholic response to worry.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 41:24
MP 050 : The Hidden Cross of Infertility https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-050-the-hidden-cross-of-infertility/ Thu, 05 May 2016 02:49:47 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=434 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-050-the-hidden-cross-of-infertility/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-050-the-hidden-cross-of-infertility/feed/ 3 <p>“We must learn to regard people less in the light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer.” ― Dietrich Bonhoeffer Our faith celebrates and values children and openness to life, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-050-the-hidden-cross-of-infertility/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-050-the-hidden-cross-of-infertility/">MP 050 : The Hidden Cross of Infertility</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> http://www.catholicinfertility.org/
― Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Our faith celebrates and values children and openness to life, so having one child or no children can be particularly painful for Catholic couples who long for a big family. To discuss this topic on a personal level we interviewed Brad and Jessica Sheguit, Alicia’s sister and brother-in-law who have carried this burden for over 7 years. In this podcast, Brad and Jessica share their struggles and give advice on how to support couples who carry this hidden cross.

* Church’s teaching on fertility treatments: USCCB & another doc
* Additional Catholic information: www.catholicinfertility.org/
* NaPro technology: www.fertilitycare.org

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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 47:08
MP 049 : Different Strokes for Different Folks https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-049-different-strokes-for-different-folks/ Wed, 20 Apr 2016 02:55:03 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=426 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-049-different-strokes-for-different-folks/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-049-different-strokes-for-different-folks/feed/ 1 <p>Every single person has a different perspective when looking at the same thing. How many times in our marriage do we come into conflict with our spouse over things that are not moral issues, just differences in opinion? It happens … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-049-different-strokes-for-different-folks/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-049-different-strokes-for-different-folks/">MP 049 : Different Strokes for Different Folks</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Every single person has a different perspective when looking at the same thing. How many times in our marriage do we come into conflict with our spouse over things that are not moral issues, just differences in opinion? It happens pretty often especially when you are first starting out and beginning your family. In this podcast we help you to see that those differences are actually gifts. We just need to figure out how to discuss our differences in a productive way. Many of our examples for this podcast come from listener emails that we felt were important to respond to.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 46:39
MP 048 : Age Appropriateness https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-048-age-appropriateness/ Wed, 06 Apr 2016 01:39:06 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=419 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-048-age-appropriateness/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-048-age-appropriateness/feed/ 0 <p>You can’t put your head in the sand. If you don’t bring up tough issues with your child, they are going to encounter them, but from the perspective of someone else. When do you bring up sticky issues with your … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-048-age-appropriateness/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-048-age-appropriateness/">MP 048 : Age Appropriateness</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> You can’t put your head in the sand. If you don’t bring up tough issues with your child, they are going to encounter them, but from the perspective of someone else. When do you bring up sticky issues with your kids? It’s so hard to know when and if you should discuss things like terrorism, abortion, or where babies come from. Kids bring up topics at the most inconvenient times! Plus, life is messy and as much as we would like to keep our children innocent forever, that is just not possible. In this podcast, we share some of our experiences and give some guidelines on how we have handled these issues with our kids. Listen in and let the conversation begin.
Conversation Questions:

* How will we protect our child’s innocence?
* What issues are on the horizon for our family?
* What’s our response as parents to these issues?

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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 49:26
MP 047 : Building Community https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-047-building-community/ Mon, 28 Mar 2016 11:57:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=417 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-047-building-community/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-047-building-community/feed/ 2 <p>Community is a sign that love is possible in a materialistic world where people so often either ignore or fight each other. It is a sign that we don’t need a lot of money to be happy – in fact, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-047-building-community/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-047-building-community/">MP 047 : Building Community</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Community is a sign that love is possible in a materialistic world where people so often either ignore or fight each other. It is a sign that we don’t need a lot of money to be happy – in fact, the opposite. ~ Jean Vanier
~ Jean Vanier (Founder of L’Arche)
Relationships are a complicated thing, but somehow we can’t live without them. Just as it is not good for man to be alone, it is also not good for a family to be alone. We are created to live in community. How do we do this when our lifestyles tend to isolation? How do you find community with people who share your values? How do you create community where there is none? In this podcast we share some experiences and ideas of how to form meaningful relationships with other people and why this is vital to the health of Catholic families.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 46:19 Relationships are a complicated thing, but somehow we can’t live without them. Just as it is not good for man to be alone, it is also not good for a family to be alone. We are created to live in community. How do we do this when our lifestyles tend to isolation? How do you find community with people who share your values? How do you create community where there is none? In this podcast we share some experiences and ideas of how to form meaningful relationships with other people and why this is vital to the health of Catholic families.
MP 046 : Every Mother is a Working Mother https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-046-every-mother-is-a-working-mother/ Thu, 10 Mar 2016 03:31:26 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=412 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-046-every-mother-is-a-working-mother/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-046-every-mother-is-a-working-mother/feed/ 0 <p>Being a working mom is not easy – you have to be willing to screw up at every level. ~Jami Gertz The phrase “working mother” is redundant. First, let’s be clear – deciding if mom should work outside the home … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-046-every-mother-is-a-working-mother/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-046-every-mother-is-a-working-mother/">MP 046 : Every Mother is a Working Mother</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Being a working mom is not easy – you have to be willing to screw up at every level. The phrase “working mother” is redundant.
First, let’s be clear – deciding if mom should work outside the home is not a moral issue. It is a personal decision made by couples in light of their priorities. In this day and age, most mothers have to work at some point. Some moms have home businesses, some work part-time, some work full time, some are able to not work at all. No matter what, the employment decision is a difficult one for families. In our family, Alicia has worked part time and full time so we have had to wrestle with many of these issues. Here are some questions for couples to discuss: Do we appreciate the role of a mom and how she contributes to the household by the work she is doing at home? How are we balancing the needs of our children with the financial needs of our family? If mom is working, what is our financial plan?
We also responded to a listener question about having more children when mom has to work in order to keep the family afloat.
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MP 045 : The Aggressive Child https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-045-the-aggressive-child/ Tue, 23 Feb 2016 02:45:38 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=403 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-045-the-aggressive-child/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-045-the-aggressive-child/feed/ 0 <p>“The Lord gave me this challenging child for a purpose. He wants me to mold and shape this youngster and prepare him or her for a life of service to Him.” ― James C. Dobson This episode is really meant … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-045-the-aggressive-child/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-045-the-aggressive-child/">MP 045 : The Aggressive Child</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “The Lord gave me this challenging child for a purpose. He wants me to mold and shape this youngster and prepare him or her for a life of service to Him.” ― James C. Dobson
― James C. Dobson
This episode is really meant for parents of little kids. Kids who push other kids because they actually like them, but don’t know how to play with anyone because they are only 3 yrs old! The reactions of our society to aggressive kids (usually boys) range from disbelieving shock (“How could that child DO such a thing?”) to indifference (“He is just going through a stage”) but neither response is really the right one. Little guys are just raw personality and it is amazing! But that little personality needs to be formed and trained by their parents – and yes, that means you. It can be truly embarrassing to have an aggressive child, but get used to it, because your child is just beginning his work of embarrassing you! We also have some advice for kids at the other end of the spectrum – those who get picked on and pushed over. They too need to learn the right way to respond that will not teach them to be a doormat, which is not what we want our children to be. We also respond to a listener question from MP044 Criticizing your husband.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 51:49
MP 044 : Criticizing Your Husband https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-criticizing-your-husband/ Tue, 09 Feb 2016 12:58:03 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=393 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-criticizing-your-husband/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-criticizing-your-husband/feed/ 0 <p>Disrespect rarely motivates a man. When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person it merely says something about our own need to be critical. Which statement to you agree with more – “I don’t know … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-criticizing-your-husband/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-criticizing-your-husband/">MP 044 : Criticizing Your Husband</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Disrespect rarely motivates a man. When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person it merely says something about our own need to be critical. When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person it merely says something about our own need to be critical.
Which statement to you agree with more – “I don’t know how I could live without him”, or “I don’t know how he could live without me”? Do we treat our husbands like a child? Do we criticize our husbands in public or to friends? Criticism doesn’t achieve the change women are looking for — ever. Attacking the need to be respected a sure way to put your marriage on the road to danger. How can wives speak to their husbands respectfully? How can husbands and wives work as a team to improve their marriage and their lives?
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MP 043 : Raising confident kids who aren’t full of themselves https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/ Wed, 03 Feb 2016 02:49:46 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=387 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/feed/ 1 <p>“I have this problem with low self-esteem, which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am.” ~ the modern child Raising confident children is the obsession of many parents today. Cries of “Good job!” “You can do it!” … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/">MP 043 : Raising confident kids who aren’t full of themselves</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “I have this problem with low self-esteem, which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am.” ~ the modern child
~ the modern child
Raising confident children is the obsession of many parents today. Cries of “Good job!” “You can do it!” “You are awesome!” can be heard in playgrounds, sporting events, and auditoriums all over the country. Is this really how we should ground our children and help them to be the best they can be? The key to self-esteem is not what you do, but who you are. Who are you? You are a child of God, created in His image. Listen in as we delve into this topic and explore how we can communicate to our children true confidence based in reality.
Conversations starter questions:

* What activities can I do to help give my child confidence?
* How do I build my teens identity as a child of God?
* Where does my identity come from? In my accomplishments or in who I am?

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MP 042 : Family Routine https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-042-family-routine/ Mon, 25 Jan 2016 02:42:29 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=373 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-042-family-routine/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-042-family-routine/feed/ 0 <p>‘Spend’ your time on paper before you ‘spend’ it in reality “How do you do it?” People ask us this question all the time, so we finally decided to answer it, at least in part. In this podcast, we share … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-042-family-routine/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-042-family-routine/">MP 042 : Family Routine</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> ’Spend’ your time on paper before you ‘spend’ it in reality “How do you do it?” People ask us this question all the time, so we finally decided to answer it, at least in part. In this podcast, we share why a routine is important and why families should budget their time, just as they budget their money. How do you make up this “budget”? Decide what your values are then they should be evidenced in your routine. As usual, we give some principles, and then some specifics on how to make a routine for your family that reflects your values and ideals.
Discussion Questions:

* What is our routine? Do we have a routine?
* Does it align with our values?
* What do we want to change about it?

Other podcast referenced:

* Chores
* Family Board Meeting
* Family Dinners

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MP 041 : Our Messy Wedding Story https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-041-our-messy-wedding-story/ Sun, 17 Jan 2016 12:16:08 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=362 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-041-our-messy-wedding-story/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-041-our-messy-wedding-story/feed/ 1 <p>  …I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. ~ wedding vows A wedding is a day, a … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-041-our-messy-wedding-story/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-041-our-messy-wedding-story/">MP 041 : Our Messy Wedding Story</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> …I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. ~ wedding vows …I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. ~ wedding vows
A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime ~ Engaged Encounter slogan
Our wedding was a day to remember for many reasons. First of all, we both married our best friend and began the greatest adventure of our lives. Also, it was a complete disaster by wedding standards. An ice storm in Philadelphia caused power outages, hazardous driving conditions, and canceled plans for many of our guests. In this podcast, we share our story so all of you can feel great about your weddings, even if they didn’t go as planned!
 
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MP 040 : Introducing our children to the Blessed Mother https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-040-introducing-our-children-to-the-blessed-mother/ Mon, 04 Jan 2016 03:38:40 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=354 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-040-introducing-our-children-to-the-blessed-mother/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-040-introducing-our-children-to-the-blessed-mother/feed/ 0 <p>“Am I not here, I, who am your mother? Are you not under my shadow and protection? Am I not the source of your joy? Are you not in the hollow of my mantle, in the crossing of my arms? … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-040-introducing-our-children-to-the-blessed-mother/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-040-introducing-our-children-to-the-blessed-mother/">MP 040 : Introducing our children to the Blessed Mother</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "Am I not here, I, who am your mother? ... Let nothing else worry you.” ~Our Lady of Guadalupe to Juan Diego
~Our Lady of Guadalupe to Juan Diego
The Virgin Mary is not only a model and intercessor for us to Jesus, but she is also our Mother. She is the crown of God’s creation and a great gift to us from the Father. Who is this woman? Why is she so special? Why should we introduce our children to her? In this podcast we answer these questions while sharing our own experiences and thoughts on this amazing woman.
Resources:

* What is Marian Consecration? (3 minute video)
* Divine Mercy and Mary (1 hour video from EWTN show)
* Best book >> 33 Days to Morning Glory


* Consecrating a child to the Blessed Virgin Mary (prayer)

 
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MP 039 : Family Board Meeting https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-039-family-board-meeting/ Tue, 15 Dec 2015 04:20:55 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=349 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-039-family-board-meeting/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-039-family-board-meeting/feed/ 0 <p>Do or do not… there is no try. – Yoda Failing to plan is planning to fail. – Ben Franklin Your family is your own little corporation and you are president of the board. Well, maybe not exactly, but you … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-039-family-board-meeting/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-039-family-board-meeting/">MP 039 : Family Board Meeting</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Do or do not… there is no try. - Yoda Failing to plan is planning to fail. – Ben Franklin
Failing to plan is planning to fail. – Ben Franklin
Your family is your own little corporation and you are president of the board. Well, maybe not exactly, but you and your spouse are the partners in running your home, and how can you do that effectively without a plan? Once a year it’s a good idea to get away, dream a little and make a plan. A Family Board Meeting isn’t about success or failure; it’s about being unified as a couple in your vision and goals for your family.
Links:

• Family Board Meeting post @ www.realhonestliving.com

Three Questions for a Frantic Family by Patrick Lencioni

• Michael Hyatt — Beginner’s Guide to Goal Setting

Family Mission and Vision (Stephen Covey) via Art of Manliness
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MP 038 : Music in the Home https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-038-music-in-the-home/ Sun, 06 Dec 2015 11:33:19 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=346 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-038-music-in-the-home/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-038-music-in-the-home/feed/ 1 <p>“Musical nourishment which is ‘rich in vitamins’ is essential for children.” ~Zoltan Kodaly, music educator Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-038-music-in-the-home/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-038-music-in-the-home/">MP 038 : Music in the Home</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything. ~ Plato Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything. ~Plato
Music is a powerful tool, a vehicle for ideas, emotions, and stimulation that is absolutely unique. As parents, we need to train our children to recognize music that is good and music that is not worth listening to. By exposing our children to lots of different types of music we can help them to make judgments and choose what is good. We can’t underestimate the importance of music in our culture and in our home.
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MP 037 : The Courage to Correct https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-037-the-courage-to-correct/ Mon, 23 Nov 2015 14:53:47 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=325 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-037-the-courage-to-correct/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-037-the-courage-to-correct/feed/ 0 <p>“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. “ – Matt 18: 15 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-037-the-courage-to-correct/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-037-the-courage-to-correct/">MP 037 : The Courage to Correct</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. “ - Matt 18: 15 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” - 2 Cor 12:9 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” – 2 Cor 12:9
As a married person, we have a duty, a solemn obligation to help to get our spouse to heaven. Sometimes that happens because we can be a cross for our spouse ☺, but sometimes we need to help our beloved by pointing out things in their lives that need to change in order for them to grow in virtue. This is more than just a difference in values – most of those are not a moral issues – this correction is regarding sinful patterns of behavior or vices that need to be rooted out. How do we do this? How do we know when to speak up and when to just pray or be silent? How do we get the courage needed to have this conversation with love?
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 35:12
MP 036 : Holidays with In-laws and Out-laws https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-036-holidays-with-in-laws-and-out-laws/ Sun, 15 Nov 2015 14:08:52 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=322 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-036-holidays-with-in-laws-and-out-laws/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-036-holidays-with-in-laws-and-out-laws/feed/ 0 <p>“A lovely thing about Christmas is that it’s compulsory, like a thunderstorm, and we all go through it together.” – Garrison Keillor “The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 1:5 Thanksgiving and Christmas … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-036-holidays-with-in-laws-and-out-laws/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-036-holidays-with-in-laws-and-out-laws/">MP 036 : Holidays with In-laws and Out-laws</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “A lovely thing about Christmas is that it’s compulsory, like a thunderstorm, and we all go through it together.” – Garrison Keillor “The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 1:5
– Garrison Keillor
“The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.”

John 1:5
Thanksgiving and Christmas are times of great joy and celebration, but can also be times of unprecedented stress and conflict. Buying gifts, traveling to see extended family, keeping traditions, are all important aspects of the holidays. How do Catholic families enjoy this while also keeping Christ as the center of our holidays? How do we love our families while we are striving to keep the peace and make everything perfect for our kids? Listen in as we discuss these challenges and ways that we have dealt with them in our household.
More on this at the Visiting Family podcast
Some Advent ideas:
9 Things to do to make a more meaningful Advent
#ShareJesus and Dynamic Catholic
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MP 035 : Natural Family Planning in a GMO world https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-035-natural-family-planning-in-a-gmo-world/ Mon, 09 Nov 2015 03:33:48 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=313 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-035-natural-family-planning-in-a-gmo-world/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-035-natural-family-planning-in-a-gmo-world/feed/ 0 <p>“With great power comes great responsibility” ~ Ben Parker (Spiderman’s Uncle) As Catholics, we have a great blessing in the clarity and beauty of the Church’s teaching on contraception. Using the natural rhythms of a woman’s cycle to regulate birth … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-035-natural-family-planning-in-a-gmo-world/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-035-natural-family-planning-in-a-gmo-world/">MP 035 : Natural Family Planning in a GMO world</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “With great power comes great responsibility” ~ Ben Parker (Spiderman’s Uncle)
~ Ben Parker (Spiderman’s Uncle)
As Catholics, we have a great blessing in the clarity and beauty of the Church’s teaching on contraception. Using the natural rhythms of a woman’s cycle to regulate birth is a way that couples use the reason of science as they are informed by the light of Faith. NFP is a gift, but it’s also a challenge! It’s hard to deny our bodies when our culture is telling us that we deserve every comfort as well as instant gratification.  In this podcast, we talk about the gift of NFP, but also the reality of the cross of denying ourselves. Listen in and tell us what you think!
Link and Resources:

* Humanae Vitae
* Dr. Janet Smith
* Couple to Couple League
* NaProTechnology (Creighton Model of NFP)
* USCCB on Natural Family Planning
* Theology of the Body Institute

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MP 034 : Challenges of Being a Millennial Parent https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-034-challenges-of-being-a-millennial-parent/ Sun, 25 Oct 2015 14:41:07 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=304 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-034-challenges-of-being-a-millennial-parent/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-034-challenges-of-being-a-millennial-parent/feed/ 0 <p>You might be a millennial parent if you… have more pictures of your kids than you do of yourself on social media, feed your kids only organic food, regularly ask the internet for parenting advice, have a tattoo or piercing, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-034-challenges-of-being-a-millennial-parent/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-034-challenges-of-being-a-millennial-parent/">MP 034 : Challenges of Being a Millennial Parent</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> You might be a millennial parent if you… have more pictures of your kids than you do of yourself on social media, feed your kids only organic food, regularly ask the internet for parenting advice, have a tattoo or piercing, or... The generation born between 1980-2000 has a particular way of parenting that is unique. Recently TIME magazine ran an article called “Help! My Parents are Millennials!” and we thought it would be a good idea to address some of the issues it brought to light. This generation is effected by the culture in some very good ways, but also in some very unhealthy ways. Its important to be open-minded, tolerant, and questioning, but not at the expense of being obedient, respectful and humble. In this podcast we look at how Millennials are parenting their children and what their particular challenges are.
Link to articles:

* TIME Millennial parents raising kids poll
* Summary from Mother Mag

 
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MP 033 : Educational choices; how do you know what’s best for your child https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-033-educational-choices-how-do-you-know-whats-best-for-your-child/ Sun, 18 Oct 2015 11:00:26 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=300 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-033-educational-choices-how-do-you-know-whats-best-for-your-child/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-033-educational-choices-how-do-you-know-whats-best-for-your-child/feed/ 1 <p>“…parents must be acknowledged as the first and foremost educators of their children. Their role as educators is so decisive that scarcely anything can compensate for their failure in it.” ~ Familiaris Consortio #36 Making educational choices for our children … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-033-educational-choices-how-do-you-know-whats-best-for-your-child/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-033-educational-choices-how-do-you-know-whats-best-for-your-child/">MP 033 : Educational choices; how do you know what’s best for your child</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “…parents must be acknowledged as the first and foremost educators of their children. Their role as educators is so decisive that scarcely anything can compensate for their failure in it.” ~ Familiaris Consortio #36 Making educational choices for our c...
~ Familiaris Consortio #36
Making educational choices for our children is a task that is daunting and stressful for most parents. How do parents know what will be best for their children and for their family? The reality is that no one can make this decision for you. Parents need the grace of God to consider homeschooling, public school, or Catholic school and chose what is best for their child. In this podcast we give some principles that we have used to guide our decisions and share some experiences of all the different schooling options we have chosen.
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MP 032 : You can’t “Be anything you want to be” – Kids and Activities https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-032-you-cant-be-anything-you-want-to-be-kids-and-activities/ Mon, 12 Oct 2015 11:00:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=298 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-032-you-cant-be-anything-you-want-to-be-kids-and-activities/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-032-you-cant-be-anything-you-want-to-be-kids-and-activities/feed/ 0 <p>“What I do, you cannot.  What you do, I cannot.  But together we can make something beautiful for God” ~ Blessed Mother Teresa In our culture today, kids have so many options for activities that it can be overwhelming!  How … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-032-you-cant-be-anything-you-want-to-be-kids-and-activities/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-032-you-cant-be-anything-you-want-to-be-kids-and-activities/">MP 032 : You can’t “Be anything you want to be” – Kids and Activities</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “What I do, you cannot.  What you do, I cannot.  But together we can make something beautiful for God” ~ Blessed Mother Teresa In our culture today, kids have so many options for activities that it can be overwhelming!  How … Continue reading In our culture today, kids have so many options for activities that it can be overwhelming!  How do you balance family life with sports, theater, groups, and community events especially when you have many children?  Exposure to different activities is important, because children have talents that should be discovered. Nevertheless, we are doing a great disservice to our kids when we tell them that they “can do anything they put their mind to” because that simply isn’t true.  We all have unique gifts given to us that we need to discover, and part of being a parent is to guide our children through this process and eliminate things on the way.
 
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MP 031 : Family Pilgrimages https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-031-family-pilgrimages/ Tue, 06 Oct 2015 02:09:54 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=295 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-031-family-pilgrimages/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-031-family-pilgrimages/feed/ 0 <p>To go on pilgrimage really means to step out of ourselves to encounter God where He has revealed Himself, where His grace has shone with particular splendor, and produced rich fruits of conversion and holiness ~ Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI We … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-031-family-pilgrimages/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-031-family-pilgrimages/">MP 031 : Family Pilgrimages</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> To go on pilgrimage really means to step out of ourselves to encounter God where He has revealed Himself, where His grace has shone with particular splendor, and produced rich fruits of conversion and holiness ~ Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI We as Catholics are incarnational people – part of the richness of being Catholic is that we can see and touch the elements of our faith!  Bringing our children to holy sites like special shrines, homes of the saints, or places of miracles helps us to make the faith real to them.  These aren’t just trips; pilgrimages are spiritual journeys that bring together what we know in our hearts and what we see with our eyes.  In this podcast, we share about two pilgrimages that we recently went on – to the Holy Land and to Philadelphia to see the Holy Father.   Listen in as we discuss how these holy journeys have strengthened our faith and inspired our children.
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MP 030 : Pope Francis, Controversy, and the Family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-030-pope-francis-controversy-and-the-family/ Mon, 21 Sep 2015 02:46:27 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=291 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-030-pope-francis-controversy-and-the-family/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-030-pope-francis-controversy-and-the-family/feed/ 1 <p>“Where there is a family with love, that family is capable of warming the heart of a whole city with its witness of love.” – Pope Francis Our Holy Father has a pastor’s heart, but often his quotes become controversial. … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-030-pope-francis-controversy-and-the-family/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-030-pope-francis-controversy-and-the-family/">MP 030 : Pope Francis, Controversy, and the Family</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Where there is a family with love, that family is capable of warming the heart of a whole city with its witness of love.” - Pope Francis
– Pope Francis
Our Holy Father has a pastor’s heart, but often his quotes become controversial. He speaks directly to families, those suffering, and to those in power in a frank, honest fashion. With the Holy Father coming to the United States and the upcoming Synod on the Family, we are taking time in this podcast to discuss his words, some of his challenging comments, and why some of the things he says are taken in a negative light. We all have a responsibility to prayerfully reflect on his words with the knowledge that they are spoken by the Vicar of Christ. We welcome you to listen to our thoughts and share your opinions with us.
Show Links

* Live Stream of World Meeting of Families and Papal Visit
* Prayer for the Synod on the Family
* Love is our Mission: The Family Fully Alive

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MP 029 : Scripture and the Family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-029-scripture-and-the-family/ Sun, 13 Sep 2015 11:00:28 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=288 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-029-scripture-and-the-family/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-029-scripture-and-the-family/feed/ 0 <p>Pope St. Gregory: Learn the heart of God from the word of God. St. Jerome: Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ. How is the Word of God honored in our homes? God is present in His Word; do we … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-029-scripture-and-the-family/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-029-scripture-and-the-family/">MP 029 : Scripture and the Family</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Pope St. Gregory: Learn the heart of God from the word of God. St. Jerome: Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ.
St. Jerome: Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ.
How is the Word of God honored in our homes? God is present in His Word; do we truly realize that? As Catholics, we need to surround our children with scripture through stories, prayer, teaching, and song. We should be using the Bible to pass on the faith to our children, for it is through the Bible that they will come to know who Jesus is and hear Him speaking to them.
Great Resources:

* iBreviary
* Scripture Studies from Scott Hahn and St. Paul Center
* Alicia’s CD (songs help memorize scripture)

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MP 028 : Messy Parenting Guide to Dating https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-028-messy-parenting-guide-to-dating/ Sun, 06 Sep 2015 11:00:26 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=282 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-028-messy-parenting-guide-to-dating/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-028-messy-parenting-guide-to-dating/feed/ 2 <p>Nothing makes a father happier than seeing a daughter with a smile on her face and her boyfriend with fear in his eyes. – Willie Robertson Your natural instinct is to protect your daughter. Forget what pop culture and pop … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-028-messy-parenting-guide-to-dating/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-028-messy-parenting-guide-to-dating/">MP 028 : Messy Parenting Guide to Dating</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Nothing makes a father happier than seeing a daughter with a smile on her face and her boyfriend with fear in his eyes. – Willie Robertson Your natural instinct is to protect your daughter. Forget what pop culture and pop … Continue reading Your natural instinct is to protect your daughter. Forget what pop culture and pop psychologists tell you. DO IT. – Dr. Meg Meeker
Daughters AND sons need direction and guidance when it comes to dating. The world tells us that dating is private and we have no business “meddling” in our teens affairs. Nothing is farther from the truth! Kids need mom and dad’s wisdom on navigating the perilous world of relationships and emotions. We have some practical advice to give from our own experience that we can share with you. Parents have to be intentional about discussing relationships with their kids and make a safe place for them to be honest and vulnerable, so they don’t go seeking affirmation in the wrong places. Dating is another area in which Catholic families can affect the world in a positive way by our example. Listen in!
Hernon Ground Rules for Dating (heavily copied from Jennifer Degler)
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 50:08
MP 027 : Date Night https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-027-date-night/ Sun, 30 Aug 2015 11:00:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=269 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-027-date-night/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-027-date-night/feed/ 0 <p>Your marriage is only as good as the work you put into it. A child-centered marriage is a recipe for disaster. Teach children early that their “happiness” is not Mom or Dad’s reason for living. ~Breathing Grace, Everything I Know … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-027-date-night/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-027-date-night/">MP 027 : Date Night</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Your marriage is only as good as the work you put into it. A child-centered marriage is a recipe for disaster. Teach children early that their “happiness” is not Mom or Dad’s reason for living.

~Breathing Grace, Everything I Know About Marriage in 200 Words or Less
How often to we take the time to show our spouse that they are “Number One” in our lives? Dedicated time alone without the children is an essential part of any healthy marriage. The foundation of your family is your marriage and we should never, ever take for granted that we are doing fine. In this episode we talk about the importance of a Date Night and Get Away Weekends. We also address two listener questions – one on toy guns and the other on how to have effective family time. Listen in and start the discussion on how and why we should all spend quality time with our beloved in order to improve our family life.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 43:44
MP 026 : Words Matter https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-026-words-matter/ Sun, 23 Aug 2015 17:04:14 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=256 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-026-words-matter/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-026-words-matter/feed/ 1 <p>“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” – Ephesians 4:29 The words that are spoken in our … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-026-words-matter/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-026-words-matter/">MP 026 : Words Matter</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” - Ephesians 4:29 The words that are spoken in our home can create an atmosphere of trust, openness and honesty or one of hostility and distrust. We need to banish from our homes sarcasm and negative humor because they tear down family members instead of building them up. There are many ways that we can use our words to encourage our children and our spouses. We need to take the time to honor and love our family with our words so our home can be a safe place for our children to thrive and grow.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 32:10
MP 025 : Creating Order in a Messy World https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-025-creating-order-in-a-messy-world/ Sun, 16 Aug 2015 11:00:13 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=250 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-025-creating-order-in-a-messy-world/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-025-creating-order-in-a-messy-world/feed/ 1 <p>“Half of the time I feel like I’m running an insane asylum… the other half of the time I feel like I belong in one. “ There are so many needs pressing on parents, especially moms, all day, every day. … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-025-creating-order-in-a-messy-world/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-025-creating-order-in-a-messy-world/">MP 025 : Creating Order in a Messy World</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Half of the time I feel like I’m running an insane asylum… the other half of the time I feel like I belong in one. “ There are so many needs pressing on parents, especially moms, all day, every day. … Continue reading There are so many needs pressing on parents, especially moms, all day, every day. How can we prioritize our time and energy to create an orderly life for ourselves and our family? In the book A Mother’s Rule of Life, Holly Pierlot describes the Six Priorities of Life that can help us create a routine in our day and make decisions that will help us use our time wisely and effectively. Despite what your children think, mothers can’t do everything! Moms (and dads!) can create a balanced life by giving priority first to Prayer then to Person, Partner, Parent, Provider, and Periphery (everything else!). If you enjoy this podcast, contact us about having Alicia come to speak to your parish or group to do a full presentation with more information on this topic.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 38:41
MP 024 : Party On! https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-024-party-on/ Mon, 10 Aug 2015 02:39:51 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=246 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-024-party-on/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-024-party-on/feed/ 1 <p>“My name is Rod and I like to party.” – Andy Samburg in Hot Rod To be Catholic is to love to party, because every mass is a party and a foretaste of heaven! Celebrations are an important way to … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-024-party-on/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-024-party-on/">MP 024 : Party On!</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “My name is Rod and I like to party.” – Andy Samburg in Hot Rod To be Catholic is to love to party, because every mass is a party and a foretaste of heaven! Celebrations are an important way to communicate our values to our children and to the world. By investing our time and treasure to gather friends and family together we are saying, “This is an important event!” As Catholics, we need to reclaim the sacraments and holidays as times to feast and celebrate. This is how we can rebuild our Catholic culture and revive our communities. Listen in as we tell you about the crazy party WE had last weekend!
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 28:23
MP 023 : Friendship and our kids https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-023-friendship-and-our-kids/ Sun, 19 Jul 2015 20:21:11 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=238 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-023-friendship-and-our-kids/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-023-friendship-and-our-kids/feed/ 0 <p>Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. ~George Washington A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter. He who finds one finds a treasure. Sirach 6:14 It … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-023-friendship-and-our-kids/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-023-friendship-and-our-kids/">MP 023 : Friendship and our kids</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. ~George Washington A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter. He who finds one finds a treasure. Sirach 6:14 It … Continue reading A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter. He who finds one finds a treasure. Sirach 6:14
It doesn’t take a village to raise a child, but the village is certainly an important part of his growth and development! The friendships that our children have are an important training ground for life, even at the earliest age. As parents, we can’t micromanage our children’s friendships, but we can guide them and provide a fertile environment for healthy relationships to grow. It’s important to do this when they are young, because as they grow friendships become more and more important and parents have less and less influence over those friendships. Listen in as we discuss this topic and its importance in the lives of our children.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 36:44
MP 022 : Dealing with Loss https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-022-dealing-with-loss/ Sun, 12 Jul 2015 11:32:45 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=233 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-022-dealing-with-loss/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-022-dealing-with-loss/feed/ 0 <p>“Why did God make you? God made me to know Him, to love Him, and to serve Him in this world, and to be happy with Him for ever in heaven.” – Baltimore Catechism Dealing with the loss of life … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-022-dealing-with-loss/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-022-dealing-with-loss/">MP 022 : Dealing with Loss</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "Why did God make you? God made me to know Him, to love Him, and to serve Him in this world, and to be happy with Him for ever in heaven." - Baltimore Catechism Dealing with the loss of life is difficult for adults and for children. Our generation is more poorly equipped than any other before us to deal with this issue, because we have been told that we are in control of our own lives, and this simply is not true. As Catholics we have a the great gift of our faith to form our hearts and inform our minds so we can embrace the suffering that death brings. In this podcast we share our own stories of loss and give some ideas for talking with your children about this issue. This podcast ends with a special song written by a mother who suffered the loss of her child and God’s response to her.
Show Notes:

* Cornerstone of Hope ( great resource for those suffering from loss)
* Story of our nephew Joshua Michael site (Regina Doman)
* Interested in Alicia’s CD or music visit Alicia Hernon.com

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MP 021 : Visiting Family https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-021-visiting-family/ Sun, 05 Jul 2015 11:00:15 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=231 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-021-visiting-family/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-021-visiting-family/feed/ 0 <p>Honor your father and mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. ~ Deut 5:16 “Life … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-021-visiting-family/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-021-visiting-family/">MP 021 : Visiting Family</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Honor your father and mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. ~ Deut 5:16 “Life … Continue reading
~ Deut 5:16
“Life is short, family is forever”
We all have a family that we have come from, our family of origin, and sometimes they are very different than ourselves. Visiting grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and in-laws can be stressful, but it is also extremely important for the well-being of our children. In this podcast we talk about the importance of visiting family, but also some issues that couples need to discuss ahead of time.
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MP 020 : Marriage – Now What? https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-020-marriage-now-what/ Sun, 28 Jun 2015 11:00:52 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=228 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-020-marriage-now-what/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-020-marriage-now-what/feed/ 0 <p>The task now for believers is to form our own families even more deeply in the love of God, and to rebuild a healthy marriage culture, one marriage at a time, from the debris of today’s decision. – Archbishop Chaput … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-020-marriage-now-what/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-020-marriage-now-what/">MP 020 : Marriage – Now What?</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> The task now for believers is to form our own families even more deeply in the love of God, and to rebuild a healthy marriage culture, one marriage at a time, from the debris of today’s decision. - Archbishop Chaput
– Archbishop Chaput
The Supreme Court’s decision to strike down the bans on same sex marriage in many ways was no surprise. The Judeo- Christian values that have supported our culture for so long have been eroding since the 1930s. In this podcast we share our reflections on this decision and what this means for our families going forward. We need to renew and strengthen the meaning and value of Catholic marriage so we can be a light in the darkness.
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MP 019 : Fatherhood https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/221-2/ Sun, 21 Jun 2015 11:00:36 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=221 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/221-2/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/221-2/feed/ 0 <p>“All it requires is that you be a man, a real man, which means a man of courage, perseverance, and integrity. You were made a man for a reason. You were made a man to be strong, long husband and … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/221-2/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/221-2/">MP 019 : Fatherhood</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "All it requires is that you be a man, a real man, which means a man of courage, perseverance, and integrity. You were made a man for a reason. You were made a man to be strong, long husband and father. So listen to your instincts and do what's right. Fatherhood is devalued, under appreciated, and desperately needed in our society. Why is fatherhood so important? Why is it so hard for men to be good fathers? In this podcast we discuss how our relationship with God the Father is the key to embracing who we are as parents. In addition, every man has a role as priest, prophet and king and his family. Let’s talk about what that means so every man can come to a deeper understanding of his role as a father.
Show Notes:

* Dr. Meg Meeker – What only a dad can give
* Great short film from David Henrie — well worth watching Catch

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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 37:03
MP 018 : Games https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-018-games/ Sun, 07 Jun 2015 11:00:42 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=216 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-018-games/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-018-games/feed/ 0 <p>I love playing with preschoolers. They make me feel so powerful! Family game night is quickly becoming lost in our technological age, but it is an extremely valuable pastime for families with many benefits. Not only can games bring people … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-018-games/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-018-games/">MP 018 : Games</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> I love playing with preschoolers. They make me feel so powerful! Family game night is quickly becoming lost in our technological age, but it is an extremely valuable pastime for families with many benefits. Family game night is quickly becoming lost in our technological age, but it is an extremely valuable pastime for families with many benefits. Not only can games bring people together, but they also exercise our brains and people skills while having fun! Listen in as we discuss why we play games with our family, the types of games to play, and some obstacles we have encountered with our kids.
What are your top three family games when you were growing up or now?
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MP 017 : Listener Questions https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-017-listener-questions/ Sun, 31 May 2015 11:00:44 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=210 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-017-listener-questions/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-017-listener-questions/feed/ 0 <p>“There are no such thing as stupid questions – only stupid people” (but not your questions!) All of you out there have helped to make this a lot of fun for us and we love to hear from you! We … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-017-listener-questions/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-017-listener-questions/">MP 017 : Listener Questions</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "There are no such thing as stupid questions - only stupid people" (but not your questions!) All of you out there have helped to make this a lot of fun for us and we love to hear from you! We have gotten lots of encouraging comments from our listeners, but also some really great questions. In this episode we decided to take some time to answer some of the insightful questions we have gotten from all of you out there, so this is a very eclectic podcast! Some of the topics we cover include: sleeping situations, dealing with kids who don’t want to ask forgiveness, reading suggestions for newly married couples, family routines, and more. Thank you for all who sent in questions – keep them coming so we can address them in future podcasts!
Referenced Links:

* Exceptional Marriages (Dr. Greg Popcak — resources and radio show)
* 5 Love Languages
* Family Meals
* Sibling Conflict
* Theology of the Body for Teens
* Preparing for Adolescence (preparation and rites of passage)
* Family Prayer (special link: Book  and Ceremony for Enthronement of the Sacred Heart)

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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 41:49
MP 016 : Technology and Kids https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-016-technology/ Sun, 24 May 2015 11:00:30 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=206 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-016-technology/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-016-technology/feed/ 0 <p>Life was much easier when Apple and Blackberry were just fruits. Changes in technology happen rapidly and kids are usually way ahead of their parents on the newest app, social media, or website. It is hard, or even impossible, for … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-016-technology/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-016-technology/">MP 016 : Technology and Kids</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Life was much easier when Apple and Blackberry were just fruits. Changes in technology happen rapidly and kids are usually way ahead of their parents on the newest app, social media, or website. It is hard, or even impossible, for parents to keep up! Some choose to keep their children away from all screens, and though sometimes we envy these people, this is not the route that we have chosen. The reality is that these things are here to stay, and as parents we need to prepare our children to become responsible adults who can function in this world with self-control and discernment. There is no easy answer, but we can offer some encouragement and perspective!
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MP 015 : Love Languages https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/ Sun, 10 May 2015 11:00:59 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=200 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/feed/ 0 <p>Sometimes we try to love someone in a language they don’t understand. We all know that our mission is to love our spouses and our children, but how do we communicate that love to them? How do we speak so … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-015-love-languages/">MP 015 : Love Languages</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Sometimes we try to love someone in a language they don’t understand. We all know that our mission is to love our spouses and our children, but how do we communicate that love to them? How do we speak so that others can understand what we are saying? Gary Campbell has written a book that we have referred to often called The Five Love Languages and it is a great way to figure out how to speak in the way that our family can understand our love.

* The 5 Love Languages (website and resources)
* 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman

 
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MP 014 : Chores https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-014-chores/ Sun, 26 Apr 2015 11:00:48 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=185 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-014-chores/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-014-chores/feed/ 0 <p>“The ability of a child to do a chore is inversely proportionate to their desire to do it.” ~said Frustrated Mother Chores are a part of every family’s life, or at least they should be. Sometimes parents find it easier to … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-014-chores/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-014-chores/">MP 014 : Chores</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "The ability of a child to do a chore is inversely proportionate to their desire to do it." ~said Frustrated Mother Chores are a part of every family’s life, or at least they should be. Sometimes parents find it easier to just do things themselves, but this does not teach responsibility nor the essential life skills every person needs. So why are chores valuable? More importantly, how can we get our kids to do them?
Show Notes:

* Maria Montessori’s Philosophy on children’s work
* Age-appropriate chores from Focus on the Family
* Happy Housewife chores based on age

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MP 013 : Submission in Marriage https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-013-submission-in-marriage/ Sun, 19 Apr 2015 11:00:02 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=179 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-013-submission-in-marriage/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-013-submission-in-marriage/feed/ 1 <p>“Wives be subject to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife, as Christ is the head of the Church, his body and himself his Savior” Eph 5:22 People hear this reading in … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-013-submission-in-marriage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-013-submission-in-marriage/">MP 013 : Submission in Marriage</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Wives be subject to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife, as Christ is the head of the Church, his body and himself his Savior” Eph 5:22 People hear this reading in … Continue reading People hear this reading in the pews and start squirming! Why is that? This is an integral passage to understand not only the relationship between husbands and wives, but in understanding how we can image God to each other. We have found that often this passage is misinterpreted and misunderstood. After years of thinking about this and living it out in our marriage we offer a different perspective in this podcast. The heart of what we talk about is how God wants to love each husband and each wife through their spouse. Marital love is a powerful thing because God wants to use it to show us His powerful awesome love. Listen in as we offer our perspective on this compelling passage of God’s word.
Show Notes:

* Fr. John Riccardo podcast on Biblical Vision for Marriage
* This Inspired Life (Interview with Alicia on Ephesians 5)
* Old article Alicia wrote on Submission ( from 1998!)

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MP 012 : Passing on the Faith https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-012-passing-on-the-faith/ Sun, 12 Apr 2015 15:32:05 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=174 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-012-passing-on-the-faith/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-012-passing-on-the-faith/feed/ 0 <p>“…the happiness you are seeking, the happiness you have the right to enjoy, has a face and a name. It is Jesus of Nazareth, hidden in the Eucharist” – Pope Benedict XVI The only way our faith as Catholics makes … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-012-passing-on-the-faith/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-012-passing-on-the-faith/">MP 012 : Passing on the Faith</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “…the happiness you are seeking, the happiness you have the right to enjoy, has a face and a name. It is Jesus of Nazareth, hidden in the Eucharist” – Pope Benedict XVI The only way our faith as Catholics makes … Continue reading The only way our faith as Catholics makes any sense is when we see our lives as a journey to deepen our relationship with Jesus. If our lives aren’t about Him- what is the point? In this podcast, Mike and Alicia interview Alicia’s parents, John and Michele Doman who are the parents of 10 and grandparents to over 40 young Catholics! Amazingly, and by God’s grace, all of the Doman children are living lives as dynamic Catholics – married and in the priesthood. John and Michele discuss their own faith journey and how they guided their children into a relationship with Christ over the years. There is much wisdom in their words, as well as humor and honesty. What a wonderful resource to hear from a couple so in love with the Lord and with such great experience!
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 32:15
MP 011 : Family Meals https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-011-family-meals/ Sun, 22 Mar 2015 11:04:20 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=136 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-011-family-meals/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-011-family-meals/feed/ 1 <p> All great change in America begins at the dinner table. ~Ronald Reagan Those of us who grew up with family dinners and who continue that tradition with our kids may not realize how counter-cultural we are becoming! Having dinner as … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-011-family-meals/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-011-family-meals/">MP 011 : Family Meals</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> All great change in America begins at the dinner table. ~Ronald Reagan
~Ronald Reagan
Those of us who grew up with family dinners and who continue that tradition with our kids may not realize how counter-cultural we are becoming! Having dinner as a family is one thing you can do for your children to help keep them healthy, emotionally stable, and academically successful. It’s a simple thing, but why doesn’t every family have dinner together? In this podcast we discuss why family dinners are an important part of our parenting, why they can be challenging, and some ideas to make your mealtime even better than it is now! Listen in and join the conversation.
Show Notes:

* Grace Before Meals with Fr. Leo
* Family Dinner Games
* Once a Month Cooking or get their cook book
* Once a month meals
* Family Dinner Project

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MP 010 : Lying https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-010-lying/ Sun, 15 Mar 2015 11:00:45 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=130 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-010-lying/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-010-lying/feed/ 0 <p>Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal faithfully are His delight. Prov 12:22 One of the trickiest situations to deal with in parenting is when a child is lying.  Do you punish them?  If you do that, … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-010-lying/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-010-lying/">MP 010 : Lying</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal faithfully are His delight. Prov 12:22 One of the trickiest situations to deal with in parenting is when a child is lying.  Do you punish them?  If you do that, won’t they keep lying to avoid punishment in the future?  How do you know they are lying?  What if you think they are lying and they are actually telling the truth?  In this podcast we will share with you what we did in our family when we had kids who were in the habit of lying in our household.  There is not a “one size fits all” approach to this issue, but we can give you some ideas and suggestions as we share our experiences with you.
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 30:34
MP 009 : Arguing in Marriage https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-009-arguing-in-marriage/ Sun, 08 Mar 2015 11:00:04 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=127 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-009-arguing-in-marriage/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-009-arguing-in-marriage/feed/ 0 <p>“You get in the biggest fights with those you care about most because those are the relationships worth fighting for” “A happy marriage is a union of two forgivers” – Ruth Bell Graham The only person in the world you … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-009-arguing-in-marriage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-009-arguing-in-marriage/">MP 009 : Arguing in Marriage</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "You get in the biggest fights with those you care about most because those are the relationships worth fighting for" “A happy marriage is a union of two forgivers” – Ruth Bell Graham
The only person in the world you will always agree with is yourself. Especially in marriage, people are going to disagree and this can lead to heated arguments between two people who really love each other. This is normal and healthy! We have to fight to work out our differences and come to a greater unity in our marriage. The goal of an argument should not be to be right, but to be unified. Even if you disagree, arguments should lead to greater clarity and understanding. In this podcast, we talk about why to argue, principles for good arguing, and some basic ground rules.
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MP 008 : Large Families https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-008-large-families/ Sun, 01 Mar 2015 11:00:23 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=115 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-008-large-families/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-008-large-families/feed/ 1 <p>“For unflagging interest and enjoyment, a household of children, if things go reasonably well, certainly makes all other forms of success and achievement lose their importance by comparison.” – Teddy Roosevelt Being blessed with a large family is something that … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-008-large-families/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-008-large-families/">MP 008 : Large Families</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> "For unflagging interest and enjoyment, a household of children, if things go reasonably well, certainly makes all other forms of success and achievement lose their importance by comparison." - Teddy Roosevelt – Teddy Roosevelt

Being blessed with a large family is something that some couples long for and something that some couples don’t even expect! Having 10 children we have a pretty realistic perspective on having more than 5 kids (which seems medium-sized to us!) There are considerations to being open to having more kids that are deeper than “why not?” There are challenges that parents need to think about because we are co-creators with God and that is not a responsibility to be taken lightly. We know many people who have had an amazing experience growing up in a big family, but there are some people who were deeply scarred because their parents weren’t ready for what was coming. Parents can never forget that they have a responsibility to not just give life, but also educate that life as well. We would like to share our experience with you to encourage you to be intentional about planning for what lies ahead if God blesses you with a bunch of kids!
Show Notes:

* Familiaris Consortio #28 (or buy it at Amazon)
* Pope Francis to Family Associations (Feast of the Holy Family 2014)
* Dad is Fat by Jim Gaffigan
* NFP info from USCCB
* NFP info from CCL

 
“I guess the reasons against having more children always seemed uninspiring and superficial. What exactly am I missing out on? Money? A few more hours of sleep? A more peaceful meal? More hair? These are nothing compared to what I get from these five monsters who rule my life … each one of them has been a pump of light into my shriveled black heart.”

– Jim Gaffigan
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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 33:57
MP 007 : Family Prayer https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-007-family-prayer/ Sun, 22 Feb 2015 11:00:43 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=106 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-007-family-prayer/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-007-family-prayer/feed/ 0 <p>“The family that prays together, stays together” Family prayer should be the center of our lives as Catholics, but often parents find it challenging. Praying consistently with our kids is not our strength, so of course that’s why we wanted … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-007-family-prayer/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-007-family-prayer/">MP 007 : Family Prayer</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> The family that prays together, stays together Family prayer should be the center of our lives as Catholics, but often parents find it challenging. Praying consistently with our kids is not our strength, so of course that’s why we wanted to address it! You need to find a type of prayer that works for you, and don’t worry about how “well” you pray. The Lord just wants to hear from you and your children need to see your example (especially you dads!). Our entire lives need to be submitted to the Lord, knowing that all we have is from Him.
Show Notes  

* Study shows importance of fathers in passing on faith – Great Article
* The Sacred Heart Devotion
* 33 Days to Morning Glory
* Jesus Christ: The Holy One of God
* Familiaris Consortio

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Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 31:23
MP 006 : The Survival Zone https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-006-the-survival-zone/ Mon, 16 Feb 2015 02:38:57 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=103 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-006-the-survival-zone/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-006-the-survival-zone/feed/ 2 <p>You want to know what it’s like having a fourth kid? Imagine you are drowning and then someone hands you a baby. ~ Jim Gaffigan We believe the most challenging years of parenting are not related to how many kids … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-006-the-survival-zone/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-006-the-survival-zone/">MP 006 : The Survival Zone</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> You want to know what it’s like having a fourth kid? Imagine you are drowning and then someone hands you a baby. ~ Jim Gaffigan We believe the most challenging years of parenting are not related to how many kids you have, but rather how close in age they are. Young families say to us all the time, ”We shouldn’t complain because we only have three kids and you have ten.” This is not true! The period of time when your family consists of kids who are all in car seats, can’t tie their own shoes, and are barely potty trained is an extremely difficult time. Be encouraged! This is a phase that doesn’t last forever (though it feels like an eternity at the time). Just think- if you can survive this, you can survive anything!
Mentioned in this episode:  Dad is Fat by Jim Gaffigan5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
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MP 005 : Preparing your Tween (and yourself!) for Adolescence https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-005-preparing-your-tween-and-yourself-for-adolescence/ Sun, 08 Feb 2015 11:00:11 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=86 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-005-preparing-your-tween-and-yourself-for-adolescence/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-005-preparing-your-tween-and-yourself-for-adolescence/feed/ 3 <p>“Do you know why God asked Abraham to sacrifice Isaac when he was 12? Because if he asked him when he was 14 it wouldn’t have been a sacrifice!” The changes that happens in adolescence – physically, emotionally, mentally – … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-005-preparing-your-tween-and-yourself-for-adolescence/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-005-preparing-your-tween-and-yourself-for-adolescence/">MP 005 : Preparing your Tween (and yourself!) for Adolescence</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> Do you know why God asked Abraham to sacrifice Isaac when he was 12? Because if he asked him when he was 14 it wouldn't have been a sacrifice! The changes that happens in adolescence – physically, emotionally, mentally – are very similar to the changes that happen during the toddler years. In both stages your child is developing in leaps and bounds and you are the one God has tasked to guide them. In this podcast, we share some of our ideas and what we have done with our children to create rites of passage, give information when they need it, and helping them solidify their gender identity. This is a crucial time in the lives of our children and its important to be intentional and have a plan of how you are going to help them and love them during this time. This is geared especially for parents with kids in the “tween” and early teen years, 11-14.
We discuss these resources in our podcast today:

* Why Gender Matters
* Preparing for Adolescence
* Wild at Heart
* Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
* Bring up Boys
* Passport 2 Purity (from a listener)

If you have gone down this road before what has helped you? Any resources you would recommend?
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MP 004 : Toddlers https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-004-toddlers/ Sun, 01 Feb 2015 12:00:08 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=62 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-004-toddlers/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-004-toddlers/feed/ 0 <p>“Give me an army of toddlers and I can overtake the world!”-Dr. James Dobson.The toddler years are an amazing time of human development, but this transition from infancy to childhood is challenging for most parents. Join us for encouragement and … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-004-toddlers/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-004-toddlers/">MP 004 : Toddlers</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Give me an army of toddlers and I can overtake the world!”-Dr. James Dobson.The toddler years are an amazing time of human development, but this transition from infancy to childhood is challenging for most parents. ]]> Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 29:48 MP 003 : Kids at Mass https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-003-kids-mass/ Sun, 25 Jan 2015 12:00:18 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=60 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-003-kids-mass/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-003-kids-mass/feed/ 0 <p>“There goes a future choir member” – said by our pastor as we rushed out of church with our screaming toddler.  Getting kids through mass is a challenge for any Catholic parent.  We can give you alot of empathy and … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-003-kids-mass/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-003-kids-mass/">MP 003 : Kids at Mass</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “There goes a future choir member” – said by our pastor as we rushed out of church with our screaming toddler.  Getting kids through mass is a challenge for any Catholic parent.  We can give you alot of empathy and … Continue reading ]]> Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 25:01 MP 002 : When Kids Fight https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-002-when-kids-fight/ Sun, 18 Jan 2015 13:00:01 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=45 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-002-when-kids-fight/#comments https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-002-when-kids-fight/feed/ 1 <p>“Parents don’t want justice – parents want peace!”  Isn’t that how we all feel sometimes? We do want peace in our homes, but we also want to teach our kids how to handle conflict.  Kids are going to fight. It’s … <a class="continue_reading" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-002-when-kids-fight/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav"><i class="fa fa-caret-right" aria-hidden="true"></i></span></a></p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-002-when-kids-fight/">MP 002 : When Kids Fight</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> “Parents don’t want justice – parents want peace!”  Isn’t that how we all feel sometimes? We do want peace in our homes, but we also want to teach our kids how to handle conflict.  Kids are going to fight. It’s … Continue reading ]]> Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 27:24 MP 001 : Parenting as a path to heaven https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-001-parenting-as-a-path-to-heaven/ Mon, 12 Jan 2015 01:24:56 +0000 http://www.messyparenting.org/?p=25 https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-001-parenting-as-a-path-to-heaven/#respond https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-001-parenting-as-a-path-to-heaven/feed/ 0 <p>This is our first podcast conversation on marriage and family. This is our basic approach to marriage and family; our parenting philosophy and overall approach to family life. What books have you read and what drives your approach to parenting?</p> <p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-001-parenting-as-a-path-to-heaven/">MP 001 : Parenting as a path to heaven</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.messyfamilyproject.org">Messy Family Project</a>.</p> This is our first podcast conversation on marriage and family. This is our basic approach to marriage and family; our parenting philosophy and overall approach to family life. What books have you read and what drives your approach to parenting? ]]> Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family clean 24:25