Email from Cana 90 – Day 2
Discerning Your Commitments of Prayer
Today we would like you to think, pray, and discuss with your spouse what commitments of prayer you feel God is calling you to this Lent. Prayer is what informs and sanctifies the other acts of fasting and mercy. Without prayer, those actions are merely disciplines. They aren’t offerings and true sacrifices. When we pray, we are lifting our hearts and our minds to God, giving Him the honor and adoration that is due to Him as our Creator and Lord. Every Catholic should have a habit of prayer. Work with your spouse to develop better, stronger habits this Lent. Ask yourself, “How can I grow in my relationship with God this Lent? In what areas is He asking me to do more?”
Some of us tend to overcommit ourselves, while others tend to be lazy, so this is where your spouse comes in! Ask them to challenge you and to help you be realistic at the same time. Talk with them about where YOU need to grow in your relationship with God. We will give some suggestions below, but make sure you are considering your current habits of prayer and then add to them. Challenge yourself to build on the foundation you have already laid. Consider if you should add Marian devotion, spiritual reading, or more time for contemplation and quiet. At least one commitment should be daily, but others could be weekly – like a Holy Hour or Stations of the Cross. You may also want to consider how you will pray as a couple. A short daily prayer together before the Lord would be a powerful habit to form.
On the flip side, as you help your spouse discern their commitments, be aware of your own selfishness. What do we mean? Well, on a practical level, time in prayer is time away from the family and this can be a sacrifice for the spouse who is left in the home with the kids. But, keep in mind that when you support your spouse in their commitments of prayer you are investing in them, in your marriage, and in your family in a very powerful way. A spouse who is growing closer to Christ will have the strength to act in virtue and lay their lives down for you in a way that they could not have done before. Help them balance their commitment to prayer with their responsibilities in the home. This will look different for every couple, so you need to figure this part out for yourselves!
Today do these 3 things:
- Read over the options for Prayer Commitments listed below. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you to pick 5 things that you feel called to do.
- Set aside a time today to discuss these with your spouse. Maybe you can text them right now your 5 options so they can think about them during the day and then decide tonight which 2 or 3 that you will choose to commit to. Get ready to start these commitments tomorrow, though we won’t be keeping track of Victory Points until Monday.
- Pray for the couples around the world who are also doing this Cana90 Lenten Journey. Over 500 have joined Cana 90. Let’s support each other as Catholic families walking this road to heaven together!
Prayer Commitment Options: Choose 5 and then discuss with your spouse and commit to 2 or 3 (all of these can be done as an individual, as a couple, or as a family)
- Grace before meals
- Daily family prayer
- Morning Offering
- Morning Prayer from Liturgy of the Hours
- Evening Prayer from Liturgy of the Hours
- Night Prayer
- Rosary (you can start with 1 decade)
- 15, 30, 45, or 60 min personal prayer daily
- 1 holy hour a week
- Spiritual reading (see website for suggestions)
- Daily Scripture reading or Lectio Divina
- Memorization of a scripture passage once a week
- Read Bible stories to your children
- Regular Confession
- Daily mass
- Act of Contrition and Examen before bed
- Daily Litany of Humility
- Daily Litany of Trust
- Prayer of thanksgiving for the day
- Singing hymns or praise and worship
- Weekly Stations of the Cross
- Consecration to Mary (33 Days to Morning Glory)
- Divine Mercy Chaplet
- Bible Study
- Other: ______________________