Messy Family Minutes

A Messy Family Minute is a quick burst of parenting advice on a particular topic. You can hear them on the radio, on YouTube, and other places: feel free to share these with friends who are asking for advice on that topic. And share on your social media!

Messy Family Minute #20: King of the Family

Messy Family Project · MFM 20 – King of the Family This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. When people ask us about the goal of our family ministry, our answer is simple: world domination! Not … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #19: Challenge

 Messy Family Project · MFM 19 – Challenge This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. In our ministry, we have heard from many families who are struggling with all this time cooped up together. We … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #18: Mercy

Messy Family Project · MFM 18 – Mercy   This is a messy family minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. Through our Lenten fasting and prayer we learn how to control ourselves, and thus give ourselves more freely to others. … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #17: Fasting

Messy Family Project · MFM 17 – Fasting This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. The goal of fasting from anything–whether food or other pleasures–is to subordinate our flesh to our will. Basically, we need to … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #16: Cana90

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. We believe that parenting is a path to holiness. Sacrificing and suffering are built right into the vocation of being a spouse and a parent! St. John Paul told … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #15: Praying as a couple

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. For some couples, praying together is very natural but for others prayer may feel awkward or forced. But, the truth is that there is real power in spouses praying … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #13: Happy Kids

This is a Messy Family Minute with Mike and Alicia Hernon. All parents want their children to be happy, but ironically it’s one thing that we actually cannot do for our kids. Every person has to make the choice to … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #12: Unity

When you have a fight with your spouse, or I mean a “discussion with emotion,” it’s very easy to have tunnel vision and to make the goal of the communication getting our way, because of course “we” are right and … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #10: Worry

My mother raised ten children and now she has over 45 grandchildren all over the country! That is a lot of marriages, children, and relationships to be worried about! But she has adopted a wise saying that we will give … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #9: Rules & Relationship

Very often parents contact us for advice on disciplining their kids. Children are “raw personality” when they are born, and it’s the job of parents to shape them into civilized human beings! To accomplish this task moms and dads need … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #8: More Than Words

The deepest desire for many of us as parents is to pass on the faith to our children and to do that, parents must be very intentional. First, we need to look at ourselves and live our faith authentically because … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #7: Habits

Creating good habits is an important part of family life, especially at the beginning of the school year. St. Francis said, “Let us begin again, for until now we have done nothing.” This is a great inspiration for us because … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #6: The Role of Parents

There is something unique about the love of a parent and child. Nothing can replace it. Your children will have many friends, companions, and peers in their lives, but they will only have one mother or father. This relationship is … Continue reading

Messy Family Marriage #5: Marriage-Based Parenting

As moms and dads we have a natural and grace-filled desire to lay our lives down for our children, to provide for their emotional and physical needs as best we can. Moms particularly can tend to burn themselves out for … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #4: Family Retreat

When we see how crazy this world is, we can be tempted to isolate our family on a desert island and leave it all behind. Well, that’s not really practical, but one thing you CAN do is take your family … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #3: Board Meeting

As moms and dads, we are pulled in many different directions. Our world is frantic and sometimes chaotic. We parents need to take a pause, take some time away to become more intentional in our Catholic family life. We suggest … Continue reading

Messy Family Minutes #2: Parental Holiness

It is a myth that there is a perfect way to be a parent.  The reality is that every family, every couple, every child is different but when parents work together, they can figure it out.  We have ten kids … Continue reading

Messy Family Minute #1: Water into Wine

Sometimes it can seem that our family life is hum-drum, monotonous, and insignificant. But Christ began his public ministry at the wedding at Cana. When we read this account in the gospel, we are reminded that our marriage, our ordinary … Continue reading